I really don’t like my mother. She abused me physically and emotionally as a child. I haven’t seen her in almost 20 years. She fastidiously avoids me. A few years ago, when her husband died, I bought her a plane ticket and invited her to come spend the holidays at my house. She accepted, but then had her stepson call me to say she wasn’t going to come.
In her defense, she is the victim of a brain injury, and probably not responsible for 90% of what she does. I don’t think she acts out of malice. She just doesn’t process information and feelings the way that other people do.
I am the last one of her children who speaks with her. So I called her today. As usual, she didn’t answer the phone. Her mailbox is full. So I sent her a text message and an email. It will take her about a week to return on the phone call.
Just another day in my life.