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psiberzerker

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on: September 15, 2019, 11:41:31 AM
I don't understand this.
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IdleBoast

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Reply #1 on: September 15, 2019, 01:31:47 PM
Nobody said it was.



psiberzerker

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Reply #2 on: September 15, 2019, 02:51:23 PM
Nobody said it was.

No, you said:

they appear to feel the need to constantly get the last word in...

I don't want the last word, that means everyone shuts up.  That's what happened, on this board.  I got the last word, and nobody wants to reply any more.  Honestly, it sucks.  

If you truly believed that I just want the last word, then why are you all giving it to me?
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IdleBoast

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Reply #3 on: September 15, 2019, 03:27:22 PM
Don't complain about being given what you appear to want, but if you don't really want it, maybe try adjusting your style. Maybe you don't mean to, but you ften come across as a weird mixture of argumentative, passive aggressive and playing the victim.

That's not fun to deal with.



psiberzerker

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Reply #4 on: September 15, 2019, 03:29:35 PM
maybe try adjusting your style.

I did.  Nobody noticed.  

Maybe you don't mean to, but you often come across as a weird mixture of argumentative, passive aggressive and playing the victim.

So?  How is my "personal style" so bad that I single handedly (Passive aggressively) cleared the boards?  Either you've given me too much power over the boards, or it seems that you might have given me too much credit for controlling these boards.
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Reply #5 on: September 15, 2019, 03:51:14 PM
I don't want the last words, I want a discussion.  If you're not willing to talk about anything else, for fear that the big bad Psiberzerker will passive-aggressively reply, then answer the non-rhetorical question:

Why is my replying to discussions the worst thing that ever happened here?



IdleBoast

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Reply #6 on: September 15, 2019, 04:06:10 PM
"The admin has made it clear that you have carte blanche here..."

Really?




psiberzerker

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Reply #7 on: September 15, 2019, 04:12:15 PM
First of all, thank you for trying to answer, and your detailed answer.

You seem to post lengthy replies regardless of whether you have anything to add to the conversation or even if you understand the points you're trying to reply to. My conclusion is that you are not so much concerned about adding to the discussion and learning something from it as you are concerned with making sure you have been involved in some way.

That's because I want an intelligent discussion.  I don't want to Lead it, and the last thing I want to do is End it, but I come here for the discussions.  Ending it means having to find something else to talk about.

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From my perspective, this has unfortunately derailed many interesting conversations I was either directly part of or reading by provoking members into tangents where they feel the need to try to clarify what you either didn't read or didn't understand, or just tell you to get lost entirely.

I'm sorry for that.  However, contrast that with my perspective that every time I try to discuss something, I am actively told that I'm wrong, missing the point, off topic, or I think I know everything about everything.  I am not provoking this response.  I'm certainly not replying int the hopes that I can tie up 3, or 4 members at once with a tangent argument about how I'm missing the point, rather than continuing the discussion from where I joined it.  

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I also have no expectation that you will alter your behaviour at this point either.


Again, I have.  I even pointed it out, several times.  You don't notice (That "You" is plural.)  It takes an effort to alter my way if thinking, and for that effort, I have see no results. So, your expectation, that my reply will have nothing to do with the topic is self fulfilling:  All you have to do is find 1 comment within, in passing, where I mention Bananas, and focus on that.  Quote that, "What does this have to do with bananas?"  Then, the topic becomes about how this isn't about bananas, the same 4 members come on to yell at me for daring to mention banans, and whatever point I was making is ignored for the bananas I mentioned in passing.  

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I just think that you do now try to antagonise, often totally without provocation, and the useful, insightful posts are the exception rather than the rule.

No.  I'm sorry it appears to be that way, but my goal is interesting discussions, and hasn't changed.  (Aside from having a place to post my stories.  Outside of the Story Boards.)  Again, the same 4 memebers see my reply, and before even reading them through, they're triggered into attacking me, because I dared reply.  

In short, the mere act of me replying to a topic is taken as a provocation.  Regardless of what I say.  [Psiberzerker replied] is now universally accepted as antagonistic.  The worst thing that can happen to a thread, regardless of what I say.

I'm just asking why.



psiberzerker

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Reply #8 on: September 15, 2019, 04:13:01 PM
"The admin has made it clear that you have carte blanche here..."

Really?

I think he means Lois, and to a lesser degree, Minty.  Other than those 2, no.  The majority of the faculty side with you.

That's hardly "Carte Blanche."



_priapism

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Reply #9 on: September 15, 2019, 04:16:34 PM
Well, at least we are all talking about the OP’s favorite subject again.  The OP.



psiberzerker

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Reply #10 on: September 15, 2019, 04:19:20 PM
Well, at least we are all talking about the OP’s favorite subject again.  The OP.

LOL, yeah.  Kinda passive aggressive of me.  At least we all know that we can stay on topic!

At least we're discussing something.  I'm not only my favorite subject, now I'm the ONLY subject worth talking about.

I'm not playing the victim, I'm playing the villain.  Your entire premise is that KB, and everyone on it is the victim of a Denial of Service attack, so I'm going to gloat.  

You already knew that I like to monologue...
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psiberzerker

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Reply #11 on: September 15, 2019, 04:24:06 PM
maybe try adjusting your style.

Now, how did I defeat you, all of you, simply by replying?

KitKat couldn't do it.  Athos couldn't do it.  You contend that I, Psiberzerker brought this board to it's knees, and nobody else.  You want to paint me as the sole, and greatest Antagonist this board has ever seen?  I'll put on my black cape.  I wanted a discussion, and answers but you want an Argument?  I'll take this as a victory.

For once, I'll settle for the last word:
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Reply #12 on: September 15, 2019, 04:42:19 PM
Let me get this straight.  I came to a board, that was over-run by child rape stories.  Then, in a year and a half, I out wrote ALL of those authors.  Simply with my greatest weapon:  The [Reply] button, every single one of you tried to silence me, and I managed to silence you.  Not with bots, not with cut-and-paste political articles, nor memes, but by sheer writing.  

I'm so insane, that I'm invariably wrong, so compulsive that I have no control over my urges, and so stupid that I can't even follow the discussion, and yet I single handedly shut you down?  I couldn't help it!

TBPH, you guys made it far too easy.  I wasn't even trying.  No, I wanted to Join you, but I accept your judgement.  I beat you, all of you, not in spite of all of my perceived personality flaws, but because of them.  I had thought it was impossible, but can accept that answer now.  Thank you.
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Reply #13 on: September 15, 2019, 06:20:26 PM
I see you’ve answered your own question.



psiberzerker

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Reply #14 on: September 15, 2019, 06:31:36 PM
I see you’ve answered your own question.

Is that what you see?  My question is why Replying is bad.  Not just bad, but the worst thing that ever happened to KB is the day that I decided to get involved.  My bad attitude, and personal style killed all discussion on this board.  

Why am I the villain because I reply to too many topics, and want to be included in discussions?  No, that's not been answered yet.  I just accepted that you won't let me be anything but the Villain.  

You're welcome to discuss anything else, any time you want, but for the time being, I'm not going to feel bad for being the only reliable topic of discussion you can stay on topic about.

If you don't want it to be about me, then prove that you're stronger than an insane, illiterate retard that knows nothing, and can't even follow your conversations.  You just have to talk about something else.
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psiberzerker

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Reply #15 on: September 15, 2019, 06:36:56 PM
I just finally gave up, took all of your insane accusations, and fed them to my Ego.



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Reply #16 on: September 15, 2019, 08:16:29 PM
"The admin has made it clear that you have carte blanche here..."

Really?



Clear to me at least. Lois' only responses to the issue have been dismissive attempts to pretend it's not an issue at all and other members have been "asked to leave," or not asked at all, for much less. What else would you call it?

I only asked one person to leave because it appeared to me that after chasing him off one board that she followed him here to chase him off again.

As for carte blanche. Carte blanche to do what?  I really do not see what the problem is. If we can tolerate KitKat and ChirpingGirl, I simply don't get it.

I don't find any of Psi's post offensive, although sometimes he disagrees with my ideas.  I find Psi's posts to be a contribution to the spirit of discussion on the board.



psiberzerker

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Reply #17 on: September 15, 2019, 08:31:31 PM
I find Psi's posts to be a contribution to the spirit of discussion on the board.

I don't believe that Discussion is really the goal of this board, any more.  I see no real effort to discuss anything, any more.  I would like to see that again, but I'm powerless to do anything to encourage it.  There's too much resistance to any of my efforts, or whatever anyone perceives to be my alleged goals here.

It couldn't possibly be anything as simple as a good discussion.  That's what I believe to be the problem.  I know that any actual discussion is actively, and collectively turned into an Argument, but I don't know why.  (It's probably subconscious the "No, ur wrong!  Eat shit, go fuck yourself!"s are obviously unthinking reflexes.)

Look at the accusations, though.  The one thing I'm most convicted of is Replying to "All of" the topics.  Without any reason why that's a bad thing.  Okay, I get that I'm a bad person, and I should feel bad, but that still doesn't address the fact that if nobody replies to anything ever again, there is no discussion on this board.

Which is why there is no discussion on this board any more.
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Reply #18 on: September 15, 2019, 09:05:12 PM
Sometimes just overposting can be part of the problem.  It makes it look like there's just one person active on the board.  But it's not like you are also starting all of the topics.  Maybe folks just want you to slow down a little so they can hear from some other posters.

When KitKat was active I got even more complaints because she would also post all of the topics and push others' contributions off the front page.  She posted a lot!



psiberzerker

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Reply #19 on: September 15, 2019, 09:19:39 PM
Sometimes just overposting can be part of the problem.

I understand that, but I'm not accused of being PART of the Problem.  I'm the problem.  Overposting drove everyone away, but Underposting, or just not positing is why this board appears dead.  It not that nobody is here, there's still people lurking pretty much unless I sign in to ask "Why?"  

I still don't understand WHY overposting is such a discussion crippling problem.  I do understand that nobody else posting, for fear that I might reply is not rational, and kills ALL discussion, though.  That much is obvious.

Also, this is the only message board I have been on, in decades, where my Post Count is the #1 complaint.  "Mom, that person is replying to a topic again!"  Who cares how many posts I make?  Why do so many people here, care so much about that?  That's the part that I don't understand, do any of you?  You can't find anything better to get triggered by than me replying to a thread on Sounding, something none of you have any interest in, whatsoever?
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