Have you ever been so whipped...

[seveninchblues]

...that you have to like the music your girlfriend likes, or boyfriend, however lame it might be?

[psiberzerker]

No.  What kind of music?  You may act like you like something you don't, but that's not being "Whipped," that's lying to your partner.  Or, you may learn to appreciate something you didn't before, because someone you care about exposed you to it.

I didn't like Hockey, until I was about 19, and my brother got into the Red Wings.  It doesn't mean I was "Whipped," it ment that I loved my brother, and cared about what he cared about, despite the fact that I never cared for team sports before that.

The fact that you're fucking someone doesn't change the fact that you have a relationship outside of bed.  It doesn't mean that She has control over what you like, just because she holds the pussy.

[MintJulie]

You don't have to 'like' something because of someone, but if you're in a relationship with them you likely will share your interests in getting to know them.  You're never going to enjoy the same things exactly.  Your music example is perfect for my example......
I love playing classical music on piano.   How many guys do you think I dated in my 20's that liked to listen to classical music?  Zero.   But they enjoyed listening to me perform.  I was told many times that it gave them goosebumps.  It wasn't because my rendition was so much better than the composers, it was because it was me playing.  He was appreciating my talent.   Do you think he was blasting classical from the speakers during poker night with his boys?  No.   I shared what I loved with him, and he appreciated it.  Same boyfriend shared his love of horror films.  I HATE those kinds of movies, but I loved watching them with him.  Bonus, I got to cuddle up next to him, closing my eyes and putting my head in the crook of his neck when a scary part came on, and he'd hold me a little tighter.

I always thought differently what the word 'whipped' meant than how you used it as an example.

[watcher1]

   But they enjoyed listening to me perform.  I was told many times that it gave them goosebumps. 

I got bigger goosebumps watching you perform rather then listening to you perform. 

[Jed_]

My Peruvian is deciding on all the music at our wedding.  She also tends to take over the radio in my truck.  I tolerate it up to a point.  Sometimes my eyes start to flutter and my head begins to hurt, and I can’t take it any more and change the channel.  Because I rarely do that, she lets out a little laugh and doesn’t object.

There’s just so much of that type of music I can take, like some guy named ‘Bad Bunny’ doing some sort of Spanish rap to synthesized noise.  Now I can listen to salsa all day, but those Latin stations like to mix it up with the results rarely good.  That, and she likes 80s music, the lowest point rock ever got with groups like the Thompson Twins and Culture Club, ARG!

[Athos_131]

I feel this is a pretty garbage and misogynistic take.

All people have different tastes, even people in a relationship.  Part of making that relationship work is your significant other showing and sharing something they appreciate and vice versa.  If you can't do that, you probably shouldn't be in that relationship.

I know I've had girlfriends who initially had activities with me they weren't "all in" on at first, but did it because they wanted to be with me, and ended enjoying themselves.

Not to mention the phrasing of the question has some pretty terrible undertones.

#Resist

[psiberzerker]

I feel this is a pretty misogynistic take.

If you fill in the blanks.  He was careful to leave out any gender specifics, like the term "Pussy" whipped, but it can be inferred.

What if we mad-lib in the genders another way:  If a woman likes her husband's music, is he whipped too, or is it just when a man listens to "Girly" music? 

What about gay men, or lesbian couples?  Are they "Whipped" if they listen to the same music?  If so, let's take the Lesbian couple for example.

Which one is pussy whipped?

[seveninchblues]

Let me put it in this light.  I've had friends who were firm about their likes and dislikes until some bimbo came along, and believe me it didn't take much, and smile and a flash of pretty blue eyes and they no longer owned their own thoughts and feelings.  I lose respect for such an individual.

[psiberzerker]

I lose respect for such an individual.

Why the fuck do you care, what kind of music he, or she listens to?

Have you ever had someone so "Whipped," they gave a cintillafuck about earning your respect?  You judge women as "Bimbos," and the taste of people, based on why you assume they like certain things.

Try not to trip over your own standards.  Your petty dismissive "Respect" is fucking worthless.

[seveninchblues]

I don't care what kind of music someone else likes, or if they dislike the kind of music I am into.  The line is drawn where they try to tell me I have to like what they like in order to be around or with them.  If I allow myself to pretend or lie by giving into a petty demand like that, I am not worthy of being respected by anyone. 

The truth is I have never seen the case I have just described. 

Every case I have seen has been voluntary. 

Boy owns himself.  Boy sees girl.  Girl could be awesome or she could be completely superficial.  It doesn't matter.  Boy goes wacko and sticks his head in a noose.  Gives up everything he has ever enjoyed or believed in, not because she asked him to, but because he has that mechanism in his brain telling him, "I have to please everyone."  There is nothing worse than that mechanism.
 
I've seen girls do it too. 

It's always sad to see people do this shit.  You try to warn them, but there's such a thing as free will, you know.   

[MissBarbara]

I don't care what kind of music someone else likes, or if they dislike the kind of music I am into.  The line is drawn where they try to tell me I have to like what they like in order to be around or with them.  If I allow myself to pretend or lie by giving into a petty demand like that, I am not worthy of being respected by anyone. 

The truth is I have never seen the case I have just described. 

Every case I have seen has been voluntary. 

Boy owns himself.  Boy sees girl.  Girl could be awesome or she could be completely superficial.  It doesn't matter.  Boy goes wacko and sticks his head in a noose.  Gives up everything he has ever enjoyed or believed in, not because she asked him to, but because he has that mechanism in his brain telling him, "I have to please everyone."  There is nothing worse than that mechanism.
 
I've seen girls do it too. 

It's always sad to see people do this shit.  You try to warn them, but there's such a thing as free will, you know.   

You're missing a point that seems so obvious that it almost doesn't need to be made.

Go back and re-read Athos's post. Especially this part:

All people have different tastes, even people in a relationship.  Part of making that relationship work is your significant other showing and sharing something they appreciate and vice versa.  If you can't do that, you probably shouldn't be in that relationship.

That's how real-life relationships work.

If someone does, in fact, "try to tell me I have to like what they like in order to be around or with them," then that's an aggressively unhealthy relationship, and it should be abandoned at once.

And, more to the point, if someone "Gives up everything he has ever enjoyed or believed in, not because she asked him to, but because he has that mechanism in his brain telling him, "I have to please everyone," then there's something vitally wrong with both the person and the relationship.

And that's not how real-life relationships work. In a real-life relationship, the two partners compromise and accommodate each other. Or, if they believe a difference in taste is a relationship-breaker, then they abandon the relationship. It's surprisingly straightforward.

[_priapism]

I think considering doing something to please your partner being “whipped” is another relic of toxic masculinity.

[seveninchblues]

I am sure that in a perfect world no one ever does anything dysfunctional, as in trying to please other people at the expense of their own likes and dislikes and beliefs.  However, I don't live in a perfect world, do you?

[Jed_]

I’ve largely kept out of deciding what music is played at my wedding.  I participate to the extend she doesn’t feel like I don’t care.  I admittedly don’t care very much, except I want her to be happy.  She wants to do a mix of fast and slow songs for our first dance as husband and wife, playing them on her phone last night.  I dutifully listened and stated when I didn’t like the selection, which was about 70% of them.

While I have opinions on what is good music, I try not to be a snob about it especially since I do not consider myself to be particularly knowledgeable.  I’m more likely to like the obscure, rather than the popular.

Other than free concerts, we’ve been to two paid concerts; one of Latin music she picked and one local band her brother-in-law picked, but we’ve got tickets to see my favorite band this summer.  I expect it to be a back and forth on who wants to see what.

Are we sure this isn’t PN?

[_priapism]

[Athos_131]

Are we sure this isn’t PN?

He admitted it in another thread.

http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=65311.msg542165#msg542165

#Resist

[Athos_131]

It seems weird to me why being exposed to something your significant other has an interest in -and possibly enjoying it!- is a bad thing.

#Reisst

[MissBarbara]

I’ve largely kept out of deciding what music is played at my wedding.  I participate to the extend she doesn’t feel like I don’t care.  I admittedly don’t care very much, except I want her to be happy.  She wants to do a mix of fast and slow songs for our first dance as husband and wife, playing them on her phone last night.  I dutifully listened and stated when I didn’t like the selection, which was about 70% of them.

That's different: It's HER wedding, not yours. You're only there to look handsome and smile for the photographer.

[MissBarbara]

It seems weird to me why being exposed to something your significant other has an interest in -and possibly enjoying it!- is a bad thing.

Exactly.

Or, to look at it the other way around, it's weird that someone in a loving relationship wouldn't naturally want to make tiny sacrifices for the sake of the partner's happiness.

[watcher1]

Exactly.

Or, to look at it the other way around, it's weird that someone in a loving relationship wouldn't naturally want to make tiny sacrifices for the sake of the partner's happiness.

Makes for a happy marriage too.