I like it this way: it feels like a group of friends - and some who may become friends - dropping in and laughing together (and other things) from time to time. Less frenetic than other forums that seem more like urgent live sex chat sites. It suits me, I feel safer, less pressured, and that makes me more free and open.
Great observation. Occasionally we get a new member who says, “My name is Gary. I’m into fast cars and fast women! Meet me in the chat room *now* for some incest fantasy talk!!!” You smile because you know he’ll be gone in three days. Nothing here ever happens fast.
This place is more like a casual vacation rental. Everyone is having a Margarita and climbing in and out of the hot tub, in various states of undress. Sure there’s some sex going on, but we’ve also got talk about art, music, literature, philosophy, and politics. It’s comfortable.
We have a rare kismet that is the by product of the members. And it has lasted a very long time in Internet years. We have been fortunate.