Ask a female a question.

[Shiela_M]

This one strikes home hard for me.  No wet noodle needed, it wasnt what you said, but how you said it.

It took me over a year before I was comfortable enough to have sex after David.  It wasnt fully because I didnt trust men, it was because that intimacy was tarnished.  Whenever I got close to sleeping with somebody, I'd have flashbacks.  Just being nude in front of a guy made me shake.  Therapy, close friends, and a guy I trusted since childhood got me through that, so the word rape, is a touchy one for me.

I like it a little rough, and that should be no secret by now.  Push me into furniture, man handle me where you want me and what position.  Grab my neck/throat.  Even a few slaps here and there.  Call me some names and tell me that I belong to you.  Dont tell me you want to rape me.  After many many years, I've finally been able to whisper to guys that I want them to "rape me"  I know that what happens next is exactly what I want.

Just change up the words next time, see if that works.  You still get your point across, get your desires out there and use your word, and she may feel a bit safer/comfortable with it.

"I'm going to f@#$ you so hard you're going to think you've been raped."

I've been told that during some heavy petting. Nearly ripped the zipper on his pants trying to get them off.  That's just a person experience.

Im not going to tell you never say it, just be careful with it, love. 

[Dirtymind]

This one strikes home hard for me.  No wet noodle needed, it wasnt what you said, but how you said it.

It took me over a year before I was comfortable enough to have sex after David.  It wasnt fully because I didnt trust men, it was because that intimacy was tarnished.  Whenever I got close to sleeping with somebody, I'd have flashbacks.  Just being nude in front of a guy made me shake.  Therapy, close friends, and a guy I trusted since childhood got me through that, so the word rape, is a touchy one for me.

I like it a little rough, and that should be no secret by now.  Push me into furniture, man handle me where you want me and what position.  Grab my neck/throat.  Even a few slaps here and there.  Call me some names and tell me that I belong to you.  Dont tell me you want to rape me.  After many many years, I've finally been able to whisper to guys that I want them to "rape me"  I know that what happens next is exactly what I want.

Just change up the words next time, see if that works.  You still get your point across, get your desires out there and use your word, and she may feel a bit safer/comfortable with it.

"I'm going to f@#$ you so hard you're going to think you've been raped."

I've been told that during some heavy petting. Nearly ripped the zipper on his pants trying to get them off.  That's just a person experience.

Im not going to tell you never say it, just be careful with it, love. 

 I will happily choke,pull hair, tie up and fuck for hours, but any reference to rape is a total mood killer.

[Hood]

We've always heard that gals are excited through touch but not by visual stimulation, and the opposite for men. I am surmising that that is a very individual matter for each person, but what say you ladies?

[MissBarbara]

We've always heard that gals are excited through touch but not by visual stimulation, and the opposite for men. I am surmising that that is a very individual matter for each person, but what say you ladies?

While I'll admit to having very few intimate experiences with men, I feel very safe in assuming that men are, in fact, very excited through touch. I mean there are likely thousands of posts on this board that give testament to that.

[Hood]

Well, I know that this man is, but I also am aware that I am very visual. I just was not sure how many women are turned on by visual without the aid of actual touch from a partner.

[Shiela_M]

Well, I know that this man is, but I also am aware that I am very visual. I just was not sure how many women are turned on by visual without the aid of actual touch from a partner.

For me, I can easily be turned on by a visual.  It gets things started, but so can a scent or a few spoken words.  Anything done in a specific way that triggers that part of my brain turns me on.  Sometimes the suggestion is better than the actual visual.  Sets my mind wondering and gets me imagining.

Do I need to see him completely erect? Not necessarily, but I do appreciate the sight.

Does feeling it pressed against me during a deep kiss get me even hotter?  Oh hell's yeah.

I also don't need to see him thrusting into me.  I'm more focused on the feeling.  Where his hands are, his mouth.  Love feeling his body work against mine.

This is just me though.  My favorite position is prone, so I'm almost not even able to see anything, and I also like a good blindfold.  Keep me guessing what and where the next touch with be.

Not sure if that really answered you question. Seeing a man can turn me on, but I dont need to everything to stay there.

[Hood]

Well, I know that this man is, but I also am aware that I am very visual. I just was not sure how many women are turned on by visual without the aid of actual touch from a partner.

For me, I can easily be turned on by a visual.  It gets things started, but so can a scent or a few spoken words.  Anything done in a specific way that triggers that part of my brain turns me on.  Sometimes the suggestion is better than the actual visual.  Sets my mind wondering and gets me imagining.

Do I need to see him completely erect? Not necessarily, but I do appreciate the sight.

Does feeling it pressed against me during a deep kiss get me even hotter?  Oh hell's yeah.

I also don't need to see him thrusting into me.  I'm more focused on the feeling.  Where his hands are, his mouth.  Love feeling his body work against mine.

This is just me though.  My favorite position is prone, so I'm almost not even able to see anything, and I also like a good blindfold.  Keep me guessing what and where the next touch with be.

Not sure if that really answered you question. Seeing a man can turn me on, but I dont need to everything to stay there.

Actually Shiela, you answered the question quite well, and I am deeply appreciative of your taking the time to give and extended and definitive response. I have often wondered but never felt inclined in a face to face situation to ask such a question. I truly am thankful for the short time I have been on this board that I feel comfortable in a more anonymous setting to ask questions that I have pondered often. So, once again, thank you for your frankness in your response. It helps me to understand more fully how a woman feels concerning these matters.

[Renegade Gypsy]

How many Females out there have ever met a man for a hook-up, where the man is only interested in pleasure he can give you ? I ask this, very young I was in a unfortunate accident. No ERECTION possible. Have tongue, long fingers and creative. Just curious

[Regna123]

I love aunt nephew incest any aunts with a good story

[purpleshoes]

On the list of things I know very little about, menstrual cycles are near the top, so I'm not really sure how to ask this question, and it's possible that there is no definitive answer, but here goes.

If eight young women live in proximity (say college students sharing a 4-bedroom house) the question is... in any given week, how many of them are likely to be having their period?

This is not some weird riddle or even idle curiosity. The question is related to the storyline of a novel I'm editing. Unfortunately, the contract terms prohibit me from actually talking about the plot, so I can't really be much more specific, but any information provided would be appreciated.

[Shiela_M]

I'm thinking back to when I was in the Army. In two rooms, there were 6 of us, and it almost seemed like when one was coming off, another was starting. We didnt all sync up and have them at the same time, but one of was having it every week. It just depends on the women. Sometimes they're stronger and last a day or two longer.  There is no set time as to when they start ot when they stop, so don't set your clock to them.

The difference for me, was that I was still taking birth control at the time, and since I would skip my placebo week, I really wouldn't get my period.  I actually stopped taking them for a month just to allow myself my natural cycle. After that month, I was back in them.

[MissBarbara]

I'm thinking back to when I was in the Army. In two rooms, there were 6 of us, and it almost seemed like when one was coming off, another was starting. We didnt all sync up and have them at the same time, but one of was having it every week. It just depends on the women. Sometimes they're stronger and last a day or two longer.  There is no set time as to when they start ot when they stop, so don't set your clock to them.

The difference for me, was that I was still taking birth control at the time, and since I would skip my placebo week, I really wouldn't get my period.  I actually stopped taking them for a month just to allow myself my natural cycle. After that month, I was back in them.

Sheila's correct. And this is more of a math question than a female anatomy question.

The whole thing about women's menstrual cycles "syncing" is pure myth. Back in the 1960s, a Harvard professor named Martha McClintock conduced a study among 135 women living together in a college dorm, and her date indicated a "syncing" of their menstrual cycles. This became known as the "McCintock Effect," and it was accepted as gospel. McClintock's study, however, failed to take into account a number of other factors that might have contributed to her observation, and modern studies indicate that syncing does not occur.

[Jed_]

I'm thinking back to when I was in the Army. In two rooms, there were 6 of us, and it almost seemed like when one was coming off, another was starting. We didnt all sync up and have them at the same time, but one of was having it every week. It just depends on the women. Sometimes they're stronger and last a day or two longer.  There is no set time as to when they start ot when they stop, so don't set your clock to them.

The difference for me, was that I was still taking birth control at the time, and since I would skip my placebo week, I really wouldn't get my period.  I actually stopped taking them for a month just to allow myself my natural cycle. After that month, I was back in them.

Sheila's correct. And this is more of a math question than a female anatomy question.

The whole thing about women's menstrual cycles "syncing" is pure myth. Back in the 1960s, a Harvard professor named Martha McClintock conduced a study among 135 women living together in a college dorm, and her date indicated a "syncing" of their menstrual cycles. This became known as the "McCintock Effect," and it was accepted as gospel. McClintock's study, however, failed to take into account a number of other factors that might have contributed to her observation, and modern studies indicate that syncing does not occur.

Thanks MissB, the issue of syncing was the first thing I thought of when I read the initial question.

Dispelling these myths, misinformation and otherwise things taken as gospel that aren’t true has never been more important than now.  We can see the incredible damage misinformation does by the example of the flawed and later debunked article claiming a connection of vaccines and autism that was the main trigger for these anti-vaxer kooks.

[MissBarbara]

I'm thinking back to when I was in the Army. In two rooms, there were 6 of us, and it almost seemed like when one was coming off, another was starting. We didnt all sync up and have them at the same time, but one of was having it every week. It just depends on the women. Sometimes they're stronger and last a day or two longer.  There is no set time as to when they start ot when they stop, so don't set your clock to them.

The difference for me, was that I was still taking birth control at the time, and since I would skip my placebo week, I really wouldn't get my period.  I actually stopped taking them for a month just to allow myself my natural cycle. After that month, I was back in them.

Sheila's correct. And this is more of a math question than a female anatomy question.

The whole thing about women's menstrual cycles "syncing" is pure myth. Back in the 1960s, a Harvard professor named Martha McClintock conduced a study among 135 women living together in a college dorm, and her date indicated a "syncing" of their menstrual cycles. This became known as the "McCintock Effect," and it was accepted as gospel. McClintock's study, however, failed to take into account a number of other factors that might have contributed to her observation, and modern studies indicate that syncing does not occur.

Thanks MissB, the issue of syncing was the first thing I thought of when I read the initial question.

Dispelling these myths, misinformation and otherwise things taken as gospel that aren’t true has never been more important than now.  We can see the incredible damage misinformation does by the example of the flawed and later debunked article claiming a connection of vaccines and autism that was the main trigger for these anti-vaxer kooks.

I find the persistence of the menstrual cycles "syncing" myth to be somewhat puzzling. If nothing else, there are millions of women in same-sex relationships, and if it were a genuine phenomenon, there's be plenty if data available. I mean, two women in a relationship would "cause" it to happen much more than a bunch of girls living together in a college dorm.

Don't forget, as Sheila noted, there are many factors that might contribute to changes in the regularity of women's menstrual cycles, and those changes are scientific, and not the result of some mystical phenomenon of women living in close proximity to each other.

[_priapism]

I think evolutionary forces, favoring the propagation of species, would disfavor synching.  Otherwise you’d have entire reproductive groups menstruating at the same time, and a narrow fertile window for the herd each month.  Ain’t nobody got time for that.

[Clitical Thinking]

modern studies indicate that syncing does not occur.

Note to self.. vaginas do in fact not communicate with each other via bluetooth. 

[MissBarbara]

modern studies indicate that syncing does not occur.

Note to self.. vaginas do in fact not communicate with each other via bluetooth. 

But they sometimes communicate via text and email...

[Jed_]

I find the persistence of the menstrual cycles "syncing" myth to be somewhat puzzling. If nothing else,

Like any myth, it persists because something about it is appealing enough to be disseminated, either by being viewed as interesting or corroborating some bias, and once broadly disseminated becomes accepted as fact.

In world history in high school I heard the teacher repeating something from our history book about during WWII the Polish army attacked tanks with cavalry charges and the Polish Air Force was destroyed on the ground.  The cavalry charges never happened.  The Polish Air Force while having antiquated planes in comparison to the Luftwaffe shot down several dozen Nazi planes against overwhelming odds, later many escaped to France and fought there, then when France fell escaped to Great Britain where they formed the Kościuszko Squadron (303) instrumental in the Battle of Britain with the highest kill ratio.  Pretty good for an air force and pilots destroyed on the ground.  It turns out what ended up in my history book had started as Nazi propaganda.

As far as menses syncing, The Big Bang Theory had the character Amy Farrah Fowler hoping that would happen to the three women on the show.  I wonder if it was a male that wrote that episode?  I wonder if some men find that myth interesting?  I didn’t other than believing it had been a recognized phenomenon, and I find everything interesting.  I now find it annoying I believed something false, but I’m also grateful to MissB for setting the record straight.

[purpleshoes]

As ignorant as I am about the subject, I've never believed that syncing was something that actually happens.

I can tell you that syncing did not have a part in the question. As MissB said, it was more of a mathematical question.

Thank you all for your thoughts. The information was very helpful, especially Sheila's response from a similar context.

Bluetooth. 

[Clitical Thinking]

Bluetooth.  [/size]

What if vaginas did have bluetooth and you accidentally connected a bluetooth headset to one? What kind of music would you find vaginas like?