Ask a female a question.

[Killer Moth]

While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?

[MissBarbara]

My question is about desire and the menstrual cycle.  Are you horniest around ovulation?  How about period sex - hot except for the mess or just not into it?

Every woman's different, but for me, the menstruation period is an "don't even think of going there" times.

If I were to graph my monthly horniness, the peak would be immediately after my period ends.

[MissBarbara]

While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?

You probably don't need this biology lesson, but when a woman becomes aroused, her body produces a natural lubricant, for obvious reasons. That's why, for many women, foreplay is both a psychological desire and a biological necessity.

Thus, "I'm getting wet" is an apt description of arousal, since arousal produces these natural lubricating fluids. "I'm getting wet" is also a really bad cliche featured in most bad porn movies, but that's neither here nor there.

I'd suspect that at one point or another, every woman has "tasted herself." And, of course, every solicitous man has "tasted" a woman. (It's par for the course for lesbians.)

The quantity, viscosity, thickness, etc. of vaginal secretions very from woman to woman. Some women produce a lot, some women produce a little, and women some do not produce enough for comfortable vaginal intercourse, thus the availability of artificial lubricants.

Wow, I'm getting a little wet just thinking about this topic... 





 

[Killer Moth]

While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?

You probably don't need this biology lesson, but when a woman becomes aroused, her body produces a natural lubricant, for obvious reasons. That's why, for many women, foreplay is both a psychological desire and a biological necessity.

Thus, "I'm getting wet" is an apt description of arousal, since arousal produces these natural lubricating fluids. "I'm getting wet" is also a really bad cliche featured in most bad porn movies, but that's neither here nor there.

I'd suspect that at one point or another, every woman has "tasted herself." And, of course, every solicitous man has "tasted" a woman. (It's par for the course for lesbians.)

The quantity, viscosity, thickness, etc. of vaginal secretions very from woman to woman. Some women produce a lot, some women produce a little, and women some do not produce enough for comfortable vaginal intercourse, thus the availability of artificial lubricants.

Wow, I'm getting a little wet just thinking about this topic... 





 

Yeah, I think I would have a hard time typing out a few paragraphs about the experience of having an erection without one kicking in...

The last part of that question, I was just wondering how reliably the early stages of arousal manifest for different women through noticeable wetness vs. other somatic responses (nipples stiffening, etc.).

[mnfredmd]

I asked this question a few years ago and got some nice answers. Since it's been a while, we've had some turnover. Let's see if we get any different replies this time.

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« on: April 29, 2014, 12:50:24 PM »
   
Hope this isn't too lame but I think its a question that only a female who ENJOYS anal can answer. Once a woman is accustom to anal and enjoys it, does she get a different feeling being penetrated anally than when she is penetrated vaginally. If the feelings are very similar can we then say that a man could identify with a woman's feeling of vaginal sex if he received anal sex. Is it very similar or very different?

[_priapism]

[MissBarbara]

While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?

You probably don't need this biology lesson, but when a woman becomes aroused, her body produces a natural lubricant, for obvious reasons. That's why, for many women, foreplay is both a psychological desire and a biological necessity.

Thus, "I'm getting wet" is an apt description of arousal, since arousal produces these natural lubricating fluids. "I'm getting wet" is also a really bad cliche featured in most bad porn movies, but that's neither here nor there.

I'd suspect that at one point or another, every woman has "tasted herself." And, of course, every solicitous man has "tasted" a woman. (It's par for the course for lesbians.)

The quantity, viscosity, thickness, etc. of vaginal secretions very from woman to woman. Some women produce a lot, some women produce a little, and women some do not produce enough for comfortable vaginal intercourse, thus the availability of artificial lubricants.

Wow, I'm getting a little wet just thinking about this topic... 

Yeah, I think I would have a hard time typing out a few paragraphs about the experience of having an erection without one kicking in...

The last part of that question, I was just wondering how reliably the early stages of arousal manifest for different women through noticeable wetness vs. other somatic responses (nipples stiffening, etc.).

Again, I'm trying hard not to generalize from personal experiences alone, but while men have a clear, obvious, and unmistakable physical manifestation of arousal, with women it's not as clear cut (or uncut ). 

As Lois indicated in the OP of this thread, nipples are not little penises, so their hardening is often not in direct response to sexual arousal, especially sexual arousal engendered by thoughts. Though this is a staple of bad porn movies and amateurish erotic fiction, in reality, as Lois indicates, temperature has more effect than erotic arousal. And the same goes for "lady boners," i.e. clitoral engorgement.

Now, a woman's nipples do not harden, and her clitoris does become engorged, in response to direct stimulation. Anyone who has ever made love with a woman can attest to that. But it's not a somatic response to arousal as much as it a physical response to erotic contact. 

[Jbird4]

This is a silly question but one that I’ve always wondered about.

To this day to a degree, but especially when I was a horny young person learning about sex, I would see any number of ordinary objects that were remotely phallic and wonder what it would be like to use them to masturbate a girl.  Anything from the obvious cucumbers to hairbrush handles to the less obvious things like the old returnable pop bottles.  It’s probably a function of how often guys masturbate, but I had the thought a million times that if I were a girl I’d do it with everything.

So do girls have those same thoughts about phallic objects?

[_priapism]

I had the thought a million times that if I were a girl I’d do it with everything.

I had similar thoughts, but decided a hairbrush handle in my ass was great for after school jackoff sessions in the bathroom.

[MissBarbara]

This is a silly question but one that I’ve always wondered about.

To this day to a degree, but especially when I was a horny young person learning about sex, I would see any number of ordinary objects that were remotely phallic and wonder what it would be like to use them to masturbate a girl.  Anything from the obvious cucumbers to hairbrush handles to the less obvious things like the old returnable pop bottles.  It’s probably a function of how often guys masturbate, but I had the thought a million times that if I were a girl I’d do it with everything.

So do girls have those same thoughts about phallic objects?

That questing isn't silly at all. In fact, that's why I love these two threads, because men and women can get honest and real information, and feel comfortable asking genuine questions like yours.

Again, not wishing to generalize from one girl's experience, I've never even once seen an object and thought that'd be great to use next time I masturbate.

I think a lot of younger women (she says, avoiding a specific age...) have experimented with objects, especially vaguely penis-shaped objects like hairbrush and electric toothbrush handles. And, of course, most of these "younger women" do not have access to sex toys to use in their stead. But I think, in most cases, since these women have not yet engaged in intercourse, they're chiefly trying to simulate what it would feel like to have an actual penis inside them.

Keep in mind, as you likely know, that vaginal penetration, like typical intercourse, does not directly stimulate the clitoris. Yes, women can and do have orgasms through vaginal stimulation only, but in these acts of youthful experimentation, the women aren't as physically sophisticated and experienced enough to achieve vaginal orgasms, and clitoral stimulation proves much more effective.

Plus, there's the fact that God gave us fingers for a reason...

[Killer Moth]

Out of curiosity: in this scenario, you can no longer experience vaginal penetration of any sort (fingers included), but all other forms of stimulation (clitorial included) are still available to you. How disappointed are you, on a scale of 1/10?

[MissBarbara]

Out of curiosity: in this scenario, you can no longer experience vaginal penetration of any sort (fingers included), but all other forms of stimulation (clitoral included) are still available to you. How disappointed are you, on a scale of 1/10?

My disappointment would be 0/10.

Other women should chime in here, but for me, penetration, especially deep penetration, isn't a necessity when masturbating. And I suspect I'm in the norm. The videos you see of a woman masturbating by plunging something deep inside her appeal to men, and not, in general, to women.

Even vibrating dildos are chiefly used for external stimulation. The clitoris is like the head of a penis x 50.

[Army of One]

Out of curiosity: in this scenario, you can no longer experience vaginal penetration of any sort (fingers included), but all other forms of stimulation (clitoral included) are still available to you. How disappointed are you, on a scale of 1/10?

My disappointment would be 0/10.

Other women should chime in here, but for me, penetration, especially deep penetration, isn't a necessity when masturbating. And I suspect I'm in the norm. The videos you see of a woman masturbating by plunging something deep inside her appeal to men, and not, in general, to women.

Even vibrating dildos are chiefly used for external stimulation. The clitoris is like the head of a penis x 50.

So, if a guy were to buy a dildo or vibe for their female significant other (personal tastes aside for the purpose of this hypothetical), you'd be more inclined to recommend a clit stimulator, or a vibe with a clit stim, than a straight up dildo?

[Katiebee]

That works for me!

[Killer Moth]

What is your favourite and least favourite slang term for female genitals?

[MintJulie]

What is your favourite and least favourite slang term for female genitals?

Favorite:  Vagina, vulva, labia, clitoris, hoo-hoo.  

Least favorite:  Pretty much every slang term.  I don't even like the shortening of the word clitoris to 'clit'.

But during sexual play he does like when I talk dirty so I will on occasion drop the P word.  The C word, UGH!  HATE IT!

[Army of One]

Okay, the hand on the back of the head during blowjobs: do you like it or not? Why/why not?

[MintJulie]

Resting a hand there is okay.  When he's laying on his back, he will lightly place a hand while running his fingers through my hair.   I actually like that.  He said it's he's petting me for doing a good job.   But I don't think that's what you mean.

For me, a hand on the head is okay, but not with force.  Giving a little extra push to the back of the head is a definite no-no that results in a quick ending to it.  It is for me to determine how far it will go in.
A boyfriend in my early 20's would use force on the back of my head.  I hated it, but never fought him about it.  I was inexperienced in orally pleasing a guy, he was my first.  I allowed it because as he put it, he was "teaching me how to give a bj correctly".  I never allowed anyone else to do that to me after him.

[Jed_]

Resting a hand there is okay.  When he's laying on his back, he will lightly place a hand while running his fingers through my hair.   I actually like that.  He said it's he's petting me for doing a good job.   But I don't think that's what you mean.

For me, a hand on the head is okay, but not with force.  Giving a little extra push to the back of the head is a definite no-no that results in a quick ending to it.  It is for me to determine how far it will go in.
A boyfriend in my early 20's would use force on the back of my head.  I hated it, but never fought him about it.  I was inexperienced in orally pleasing a guy, he was my first.  I allowed it because as he put it, he was "teaching me how to give a bj correctly".  I never allowed anyone else to do that to me after him.

I think the answer depends on the girl to what level, if any, force is used.  In talking to many girls, some have told me how much they hate that while others have said they love it.  The problem is when guys do what they want regardless.  My late wife was very accepting of me being forceful; she wasn’t necessarily into it, she did it for me knowing how much I liked it.

I’m curious if more girls would answer this and if we’d get a variety of responses?

[KitKat]

Every female likes different things.