Ask a female a question.

[Lois]

A mirror thread for males that have questions about the female experience.

Answer to first anticipated question:

My nipples get hard in response to the temperature, not sexual excitement.

[_priapism]

Are “lady boners” a real thing?  What sort of circumstances or activities cause one?  I sometimes wonder if a coworker might be suffering from a throbbing clit, looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

 

[Army of One]

The perfect female orgasm: what tips can you suggest to males to achieve one out of their female partners? And can girls "squirt" from these orgasms?

[Lois]

Are “lady boners” a real thing?  What sort of circumstances or activities cause one?  I sometimes wonder if a coworker might be suffering from a throbbing clit, looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

 

 They might be a thing, but I've never noticed.  It's all just to small and in a hard place to see.

Next time I masturbate I'll try to check with a mirror.  But maybe you can just go down on your GF and check yourself?

I do know that like a penis, the clit gets very sensitive right after an orgasm.

[Lois]

The perfect female orgasm: what tips can you suggest to males to achieve one out of their female partners? And can girls "squirt" from these orgasms?

Every partner is different so it is really hard to say.  I have my best orgams when I'm totally relaxed and into it.  This means I'm non-verbal and quiet.  My best advice is to just ask the woman what she likes best.  Do not constantly ask her if she's cum or comment that she's cumming.  This will likely ensure she won't cum.

[MissBarbara]

Are “lady boners” a real thing?  What sort of circumstances or activities cause one?  I sometimes wonder if a coworker might be suffering from a throbbing clit, looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

 

I might be over-generalizing, but I suspect the majority of women feel no such need, and can wait until they get home, with or without a partner.

[MintJulie]

Are “lady boners” a real thing?  

Yes, they are a real thing.

What sort of circumstances or activities cause one?  

In my early 20's I might be making out with a guy and it would happen.  Or in anticipation of sex.  There were times I was just sitting at my desk.  Other times it might have come out of nowhere.  Or I could have been thinking of something.   I recall the first time it ever happened.  My sister and I were sunning in the backyard in our bathing suits.  It was really hot out.  I was actually drifting off to sleep and then I was like "wtf?"  I went inside to see what the heck was going on.  I was kind of scared.  My sister laughed when I told her in my "why tf did it do that" voice.  She said it never happened to her but she had one friend that it happened to all the time.  It would swell to just barely peek out from between the labia.  I recall it only happened when I was sitting still.  Never while moving or walking.  It happened with much less frequency in my mid-late 20's, but occasionally it did.

Over the last 14 years, it has and still does happen on a rare occasion (once or twice a year), but it is not like then.  I feel the swelling, but it doesn't extend outward.  It's wider but shorter to the size of a marble, but stays hidden away.  I need to move things to see it, where as before it would lengthen 3 times what it does now.  I ignore it and it goes away.  The thing that is different now than back then is I can feel it pulse with my heartbeat.  It's just a very very light ping.  It also goes away very quickly, 2 to 3 minutes.  Probably because I put it out of my mind.  If I think about it it might last a bit longer.  

Only once did it happen and not go away quickly.  It was about an hour.   I was 15 minutes into a very boring meeting.  *ping* *ping* *ping* and the ping grew to many times what it started out.  But not something that would make me have a moment.   The one thing I remember about that day that is my butt cheeks had fallen asleep, not sure if that had anything to do with it.  Just a weird thing all around.  

......looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

Nope.  Never felt the need to take care of it.

[_priapism]

It would swell to just barely peek out from between the labia.

......looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

Nope.  Never felt the need to take care of it.

 

I want to run to the boys room now... LOL.

[MintJulie]

The perfect female orgasm: what tips can you suggest to males to achieve one out of their female partners?

As Lois said, every partner is different.  

A sure thing for me is clitoral stimulation.  It's not a race.  So take your time.  The most important thing about clitoral stimulation is lubrication.  It is very sensitive and a dry finger will hurt.   Don't use too much pressure.   Just a light touch should do the trick.  Don't give it 100% of your attention.   Don't keep repeating the same movements.  Switch things up. There are other places to touch that feels good too, plus those other places will take care of lubricating the tip of your finger.  
If using your tongue, don't press too hard.  Just use the tip of your tongue and occasionaly use the whole flat of your tongue.  Suck it and blow on it gently.  Pretend it's a joystick and push it left, then right, then up, then down....be gentle.
  
With my current boyfriend he might be further along than I am.  If he's close to orgasm I ask him to pull out.   He kneels in front of me and I take him in my hand and touch myself with his penis, rubbing his head against my clitoris the way I like.  He REALLY enjoys watching me doing this to myself using his penis.   And then when I'm close, I tell him to get inside me so we'll orgasm close to the same time.     Or, you can pull out and hold yourself in your hand and rub your head around against her clitoris. It works both ways.   It gives you a minute to relax and delay the arrival of your orgasm until she's about ready.  If it gets dry, dip inside her for a moment.   Or drool some saliva in your hand and wipe it on the head of your penis.  Saliva is a great lubricant.

There are other ways to get your partner to her happy spot.  Just read her signals she's giving off.  A moan means you're doing something good, a quiver also.  If she's not giving off signals, do as Lois suggests, just ask her.    But take your time and don't rush it.

And can girls "squirt" from these orgasms?

From my knowledge on the subject, very few can, most can't.
I had a minor discharge one time.  Not sure I'd call it a 'squirt'.
Here is a link you can visit regarding squirters.
http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=575.0
and here http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=440.0

[_priapism]

How a friend described it (and made me very horny too)...

[Killer Moth]

What is your attitude towards semen? Does the idea of being "cum upon" have an intrinsic pleasure for you? Do you like to eat or, or do you do it because it pleases your partner, or not at all?

[MintJulie]

What is your attitude towards semen? Does the idea of being "cum upon" have an intrinsic pleasure for you? Do you like to eat or, or do you do it because it pleases your partner, or not at all?

You'll get a different answer from every woman.
I'll answer from my perspective.

As for being cum upon......There is absolutely no pleasure to me, but I know it is a pleasure to my boyfriend.   I have never minded it with him or any other of my boyfriends.  The one big no no is ejaculating on my face.   When I first joined KB, I asked a bit about it here... http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=28133.0  
Most of the guys after being told they're not giving me a facial have settled for ejaculating on my boobs.  One boyfriend in my 20's told me to spread it around my boobs.  Ok, whatever, he liked it.  So, when I would do that with future boyfriends they all loved it and would tell me how hot it was.  That's why I did it.  Really though, it does nothing for me making the mess even messier.  hahaha  My current boyfriend freaking loves me to do it.  I act like I love playing with my boobs while making them and my hands a sticky gooey mess, when really....No, I don't.  I just want to get to the bathroom to clean up.  

Do I like to eat it?  I will answer similarly to above.  My boyfriend likes it, so I will do it.  The only joy I get out of it is seeing him get joy out of it.  Pretty much every guy that I have performed oral sex enjoys having their moment in my mouth.  At no time in my life have I ever uttered the words, "Oh my gosh, I love swallowing your semen."

[_priapism]

At no time in my life have I ever *not* uttered the words, "Oh my gosh, I love swallowing your cunt juice." 

 

[KitKat]

Why do women hate each other so much?

[Gina Marie]

The perfect female orgasm: what tips can you suggest to males to achieve one out of their female partners? And can girls "squirt" from these orgasms?

Here ya go... Lots of information!

http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=440.0

[Sensualtravler]

Are “lady boners” a real thing? 

Yes, they are a real thing.

What sort of circumstances or activities cause one? 

In my early 20's I might be making out with a guy and it would happen.  Or in anticipation of sex.  There were times I was just sitting at my desk.  Other times it might have come out of nowhere.  Or I could have been thinking of something.   I recall the first time it ever happened.  My sister and I were sunning in the backyard in our bathing suits.  It was really hot out.  I was actually drifting off to sleep and then I was like "wtf?"  I went inside to see what the heck was going on.  I was kind of scared.  My sister laughed when I told her in my "why tf did it do that" voice.  She said it never happened to her but she had one friend that it happened to all the time.  It would swell to just barely peek out from between the labia.  I recall it only happened when I was sitting still.  Never while moving or walking.  It happened with much less frequency in my mid-late 20's, but occasionally it did.

Over the last 14 years, it has and still does happen on a rare occasion (once or twice a year), but it is not like then.  I feel the swelling, but it doesn't extend outward.  It's wider but shorter to the size of a marble, but stays hidden away.  I need to move things to see it, where as before it would lengthen 3 times what it does now.  I ignore it and it goes away.  The thing that is different now than back then is I can feel it pulse with my heartbeat.  It's just a very very light ping.  It also goes away very quickly, 2 to 3 minutes.  Probably because I put it out of my mind.  If I think about it it might last a bit longer. 

Only once did it happen and not go away quickly.  It was about an hour.   I was 15 minutes into a very boring meeting.  *ping* *ping* *ping* and the ping grew to many times what it started out.  But not something that would make me have a moment.   The one thing I remember about that day that is my butt cheeks had fallen asleep, not sure if that had anything to do with it.  Just a weird thing all around. 

......looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

Nope.  Never felt the need to take care of it.

Try a better vibrator. ~ grin~

[MintJulie]

Try a better vibrator. ~ grin~

Men are from Mars.
Women are from Venus.
Guys feel the need to take care of their swelling problem.
I don't get that feeling.  It happens and I go on with my day.
Just like when my nipples may harden for some reason.  I don't feel the need to start playing with them. 

But to your comment, when I do feel the urge to masturbate, I don't require anything better.  I have no issue getting to my happy place with my fingers, my vibrators or any other toys in my drawer.

[Jed_]

Try a better vibrator. ~ grin~

Men are from Mars.
Women are from Venus.
Guys feel the need to take care of their swelling problem.

Not really, if we did every time we’d get nothing done and probably wear the skin off.

Not sure how to put this, but we save things in our heads (like that girl that bent over to tie her shoe in Walmart) or have a specific accompaniment in mind such as a porn vid, a pic even a story to read.  We create scenarios with the images, either in our head or real images.

I’m not convinced it’s that much different for men except we tend to be more visual, more likely to use porn.

[_priapism]

Or nipples hardening for some reason...   

[Levorotatory]

My question is about desire and the menstrual cycle.  Are you horniest around ovulation?  How about period sex - hot except for the mess or just not into it?