I’m really sad to hear that WB and I hope your mother gets the care of that she needs. It sounds like she is just giving up the will to live. I remember when my grandfather did the same thing, stopped taking his medication, exercising, following doctors’ advice etc., and he just fell over in the living room and died.
My mother is 78 and lives by herself in Wyoming, 1,000 miles away. She has 8 grandchildren she never sees. I have tried to get her to come back to Texas, even taking care of her but she is a serious introvert, almost to the point of hermetic isolationism.
In January, she fell down some 20 exterior stairs covered in icy snow. Landed in the hospital. Did not even call me. That’s when I knew I was pretty low on her list. I am the only one of her children who still talks to her.
Thank you. She has always been this way. I was 9 when she had to have her kidney removed. Did not tell me or my siblings anything, just "Hey your crashing with your grandmother for awhile." because my mom and dad were separated at the time. Then, five years ago she slipped in the bathroom and broke her hip joint and femur, and had to have a titanium rod installed with a new joint. The only thing I heard was "I was in the hospital, I am fine now." She seemed okay week before last, when she and my dad showed up to drop off the motorcycles after cutting their vacation short to return home. Mom was so worried second oldest was using her house to party in that they came home to nothing. No party, Second oldest reading a book listening to the radio. My dad was so mad he would not talk to my mom for a couple of days, and now, the only people she talked to is my brother and sisters. And they tell me she was out of her mind, talking about people in her house, sleeping upstairs, when the house they moved into when all of her kids flew the nest has no upstairs, attic or anything like that, and then even more crazy shit. Now shes in the er, they are planning to keep her, and my grandmother is there, calling me to fill me in. I want to scream, rage and cry, but honestly, I can't.
I can't muster the tears. I love my mom dearly. I think I mentioned this before, but when I was young, I was a horrible kid. from kindergarten to when I was eleven, I was a monster. Everyone who knew my mom told her that they would not blame her if she put me up for adoption, and try again for better kid. My mom would get furious at them, saying "I loved that boy, from the moment his heart started beating, to when he was born, I held him on my chest and loved him every day since." So I cannot just abandon her, but I cannot cry. I want to so badly. I want to break down, because I have said some pretty harsh things to her in my past, words now I wish I never said.
I am sorry everyone, this is lame. No one comes here to lament, but to fap and have a good time. I am sorry for ruining the mood. Everyone have a good and wonderful rest of the day.