What RUINED your day today?

[Asmodel]

None of the injuries were too severe, the worst one being a bite mark right next to her eye. A few stitches and antibiotics and we got them all patched up

Good to hear it wasn't anything worse, and I'm sure Nurse Shiela took good care of them 

We still had to call up our boss, then sent him a few of the worst injuries, none were life threatening, but the poor girl with the bite near her eye had us all concerned, otherwise we handled everything without him. We have two veterinarians that switch alternate weekends on call, so we always have somebody available in case something severe like this happens.

I worry this would happen if mine got loose.

Although when she has got out of the back yard, she ran around front and scratched on the door to get back in.  And the other day I found I had not latched the back gate; she could have squeezed through easily over a two day period but didn’t.

She was boarded over the weekend and apparently was fine, very submissive as she has always been while boarded or at the vet.  I’m beginning to think much of her aggression towards other dogs (and occasionally people) is about me.  She’s fine with people who know dogs when I’m not around.  I think her aggression is about protecting me.  She views dogs as a threat I need protection from, and the occasional fear of people is about people she worries are a threat to me.  She’s generally fine around women, it’s most men she distrusts (my boarder knows that, and never seen a man working at my vet).

Put it this way, you don’t want to get angry with me with her there.  I could drop the leash and yell ‘Kill!’, and it would be very bad for that person.

It’s constant vigilance to make sure she has a good life and everyone and everyone’s pets are safe.

That’s, surely hard. Though you know that she means you to be safe, raising a dog with THAT level of sense of protection and safety towards you, would surely be a challenging task, sometimes, atleast.

[Shiela_M]

My theory, When she's boarded, she's not at home, so sue doesn't have to worry about protecting her den. You're not there, so she doesn't have to worry over your safety. So being boarded makes her have zero responsibility and she relaxes her protective instincts.

A while back, we had a guy who brought in a doberman named Diesel. She was a very sweet dog, and loved to play fetch. Got along with everybody and other dogs as well. But she would attack any dog that came into her yard. Once away from her home, she was the friendliest dog.

[Jed_]

My theory, When she's boarded, she's not at home, so sue doesn't have to worry about protecting her den. You're not there, so she doesn't have to worry over your safety. So being boarded makes her have zero responsibility and she relaxes her protective instincts.

A while back, we had a guy who brought in a doberman named Diesel. She was a very sweet dog, and loved to play fetch. Got along with everybody and other dogs as well. But she would attack any dog that came into her yard. Once away from her home, she was the friendliest dog.

Thank you for your insight my dear.  Despite having dogs for years, I still feel like I’m learning but have so much more to learn.

[seeker83]

What ruined my day today?  Me being lazy and taking the easy road.  I should have gone to the gym and even received a kit from a company my work partnered with to help with stretching and maintenance-level physical therapy.  I opened the kit but didn't do anything with it yet.

Sometimes I just don't step up and take care of myself the way I should.

[Clitical Thinking]

Sometimes I just don't step up and take care of myself the way I should.

Welcome to the club 

[Jed_]

What ruined my day today?  Me being lazy and taking the easy road.  I should have gone to the gym and even received a kit from a company my work partnered with to help with stretching and maintenance-level physical therapy.  I opened the kit but didn't do anything with it yet.

Sometimes I just don't step up and take care of myself the way I should.

We had a single chicken thigh each as meat in a dinner tonight of beans, corn and fresh grown tomatoes from my deck.  She won’t eat the chicken skin, the best part obviously, saying it’s fat.  Well after baked over an hour, the fat in the skin rendered into the baking dish making the skin all crispy and seasoned with spices, fresh rosemary and fresh garlic, and not particularly fatty.  I asked for her skin, but was told it’s not good for me, and she made a point of throwing it in the trash.  So I made a point of pretending to fish it out of the trash to eat it and incited a shitstorm.

Just let me have your fucking chicken skin!  We’ll sometimes eat 5 fucking pieces of KFC per person in one sitting, skin included and all fried breading and extremely fatty, but I can’t have the skin off of a second baked tiny chicken thigh?  The crushed garlic and rosemary I pushed under the skin and the light dusting of Creole spices made the skin exquisite.

[_priapism]

My ex would cook chicken breasts, with the skin removed. And boil some broccoli. She said it was “healthy”. It was dry, tough, flavorless, and absolutely horrible. Notice I said my ex. Just one of a litany of things that made living together impossible. I like my sauces. I like my fats. I like my dark meat. She still serves dry, unseasoned, skinless chicken breasts, according to the kids. So glad I’m not there. A squeeze of lemon is not “seasoning”.

[Asmodel]

Well, what ruined my day today was like this,
Aside from Kristen, I used to be and still am , a member of another forum,
Where, I had tried to get along with a person, let’s call her K.
So, early May, we met, everything was fine, we had some good funny chats, I was sort of smitten by her, as she was pretty beautiful: in face, body and (after talking to her found out ) personality aswell.
Late May, I made a mistake while talking to her, maybe got overly-friendly, (before anyone gets triggered, I had actually did it while talking with K before a few times, only jesting though, and it was also received in good spirits, hence didn’t feel apprehensive.) said something which she thoroughly minded, I apologised, no response whatsoever, still everything was fine, maybe, as we had some occasional interactions only and she was well, significantly more distant than before.
Fast forward to 2nd week of June, due to some personal reasons, had to leave the forum for quite some time ( a month to be exact.)
Fast forward to 2nd week of July, returned to the forum, K was the first person I messaged, asking for a chance to talk. no responSe For the day. The next day, see her reply to stop bothering her anymore. I Was, well, bummed out AF!
So, finally today, ran into K out of sheer coincidence in the chatroom(hadn’t even visited the chatroom for 2 months till today), messaged her asking her to give me a chance to explain, she did, I explained to her that in my one month hiatus from the forum, I had well, undergone a personality change, and only wanted a friendship with her, nothing more, she replied that she wasn’t interested at all, and would block me if I ever messaged her again, (and Maybe she did too.)
So that’s that, what ruined my day today.
Maybe it was because I thought too much/highly of her, (understatement of the month.) while in her eyes, I was just a bothersome nobody guy. Still, if anyone thinks that I’m the one at fault here, say as you wish as I don’t mind at all.

[Jed_]

Waking up and remembering ranting about a chicken skin, and then thinking how trivial that is to hearing my long time coworker’s mom’s cancer is back.

[Sarah_1964]

Well, what ruined my day today was like this,
Aside from Kristen, I used to be and still am , a member of another forum,
Where, I had tried to get along with a person, let’s call her K.
So, early May, we met, everything was fine, we had some good funny chats, I was sort of smitten by her, as she was pretty beautiful: in face, body and (after talking to her found out ) personality aswell.
Late May, I made a mistake while talking to her, maybe got overly-friendly, (before anyone gets triggered, I had actually did it while talking with K before a few times, only jesting though, and it was also received in good spirits, hence didn’t feel apprehensive.) said something which she thoroughly minded, I apologised, no response whatsoever, still everything was fine, maybe, as we had some occasional interactions only and she was well, significantly more distant than before.
Fast forward to 2nd week of June, due to some personal reasons, had to leave the forum for quite some time ( a month to be exact.)
Fast forward to 2nd week of July, returned to the forum, K was the first person I messaged, asking for a chance to talk. no responSe For the day. The next day, see her reply to stop bothering her anymore. I Was, well, bummed out AF!
So, finally today, ran into K out of sheer coincidence in the chatroom(hadn’t even visited the chatroom for 2 months till today), messaged her asking her to give me a chance to explain, she did, I explained to her that in my one month hiatus from the forum, I had well, undergone a personality change, and only wanted a friendship with her, nothing more, she replied that she wasn’t interested at all, and would block me if I ever messaged her again, (and Maybe she did too.)
So that’s that, what ruined my day today.
Maybe it was because I thought too much/highly of her, (understatement of the month.) while in her eyes, I was just a bothersome nobody guy. Still, if anyone thinks that I’m the one at fault here, say as you wish as I don’t mind at all.

Vicky, you are an interesting, nice, thoughtful young man: you don't need a relationship with 'K' on a forum that is dominated by sex chat and relationships that last less time than masturbation. And if she doesn't want to talk to you, then for sure the best thing is not to talk to her. You are really nice - if perhaps prone to emitting confused word salads - and I'm sure you will find real friends, in real life and online, if you take it easy.

And if anyone here is looking for a nice friend, I can recommend 'asmodel' without hesitation.

[Clitical Thinking]

my long time coworker’s mom’s cancer is back.

 

[_priapism]

Waking up and remembering ranting about a chicken skin, and then thinking how trivial that is to hearing my long time coworker’s mom’s cancer is back.

Bummer. But I’m with you on the chicken skin!

[_priapism]

Well, what ruined my day today was like this,
Aside from Kristen, I used to be and still am , a member of another forum,
Where, I had tried to get along with a person, let’s call her K.
So, early May, we met, everything was fine, we had some good funny chats, I was sort of smitten by her, as she was pretty beautiful: in face, body and (after talking to her found out ) personality aswell.
Late May, I made a mistake while talking to her, maybe got overly-friendly, (before anyone gets triggered, I had actually did it while talking with K before a few times, only jesting though, and it was also received in good spirits, hence didn’t feel apprehensive.) said something which she thoroughly minded, I apologised, no response whatsoever, still everything was fine, maybe, as we had some occasional interactions only and she was well, significantly more distant than before.
Fast forward to 2nd week of June, due to some personal reasons, had to leave the forum for quite some time ( a month to be exact.)
Fast forward to 2nd week of July, returned to the forum, K was the first person I messaged, asking for a chance to talk. no responSe For the day. The next day, see her reply to stop bothering her anymore. I Was, well, bummed out AF!
So, finally today, ran into K out of sheer coincidence in the chatroom(hadn’t even visited the chatroom for 2 months till today), messaged her asking her to give me a chance to explain, she did, I explained to her that in my one month hiatus from the forum, I had well, undergone a personality change, and only wanted a friendship with her, nothing more, she replied that she wasn’t interested at all, and would block me if I ever messaged her again, (and Maybe she did too.)
So that’s that, what ruined my day today.
Maybe it was because I thought too much/highly of her, (understatement of the month.) while in her eyes, I was just a bothersome nobody guy. Still, if anyone thinks that I’m the one at fault here, say as you wish as I don’t mind at all.

You strike me as a younger fellow, so let me just give you the benefit of my experience. You seem to sincerely have wanted to explain yourself. But you have to understand that the recipient of your “need to explain” is going to view it as a form of harassment. So just respect boundaries. We’ve had problems from time to time here on this board, with members that got carried away, and ended up being misunderstood and upsetting someone. We’ve even had to ban some members, because they just couldn’t quit picking at that scab.

The good news is, there are over 4 billion women on the planet. And you’re gonna find one or more, or a dozen, partners. So I wouldn’t let this one bother you. Sure, everybody hates to be rejected. I hate to be rejected. But when I am rejected, I just walk away with my head held high, and realize that it is their loss, not mine. Following them around afterwards is always going to make you look desperate. And if there’s one thing women hate, it’s desperation.

The other point to remember is that, nothing on the Internet is real. I know you met this person in real life, so that aspect of it may have seemed “real,“ but the relationship was Internet-based, and you just can’t go making life decisions that way. So I’d recommend keeping a respectful distance. People always want what they think they can’t have. And the easiest way to attract people to yourself, is to seem unavailable. I just blew my cover. LOL.

[Sarah_1964]

Toe's sage advice is so right: but what kind of deviant could ever reject such a nice man with such a big tent?

[Clitical Thinking]

Following them around afterwards is always going to make you look desperate. And if there’s one thing women hate, it’s desperation.

..and eventually it stops looking like desperation and just starts seeming creepy.

[Jed_]

Too much concern lately about thread derailing.  Being here is about fun.  What’s the harm that a few posts are off topic if the people involved are having fun?  It will right itself soon enough.  We don’t have the master, sorry, mistress of thread derailing around anymore, and I don’t see it as a huge problem.

[Asmodel]

You strike me as a younger fellow, so let me just give you the benefit of my experience. You seem to sincerely have wanted to explain yourself. But you have to understand that the recipient of your “need to explain” is going to view it as a form of harassment. So just respect boundaries. We’ve had problems from time to time here on this board, with members that got carried away, and ended up being misunderstood and upsetting someone. We’ve even had to ban some members, because they just couldn’t quit picking at that scab.

The good news is, there are over 4 billion women on the planet. And you’re gonna find one or more, or a dozen, partners. So I wouldn’t let this one bother you. Sure, everybody hates to be rejected. I hate to be rejected. But when I am rejected, I just walk away with my head held high, and realize that it is their loss, not mine. Following them around afterwards is always going to make you look desperate. And if there’s one thing women hate, it’s desperation.

The other point to remember is that, nothing on the Internet is real. I know you met this person in real life, so that aspect of it may have seemed “real,“ but the relationship was Internet-based, and you just can’t go making life decisions that way. So I’d recommend keeping a respectful distance. People always want what they think they can’t have. And the easiest way to attract people to yourself, is to seem unavailable. I just blew my cover. LOL.

Well, I must admit that you’re correct. that’s very good advice,
Considering your opinion about their point of view, that does seem a plausible, even if bad for me, reaction.
You’re right again when you say that rejection hurts, it sure does, like a bandaid being pulled off slowly or fastly (whichever is worse for the reader.) well, you’re just a teensy bit wrong about one detail, I never did meet the person in real life, only online.
Also your advice about playing hard to get, I get ya and it does attract people, though, to be honest, it sounds more like dating advice than friendship advice heh.

Thank you to everyone who replied, it is nice to see that good people still use online forums.

[MintJulie]

A couple of things...

Being away from KB for too many days.    Missed everyone. But this will be the norm for the coming months.

Coming back and having to go through 8 pages of Unread Posts.  (which, really, that's a good thing because everybody else has been active).

[MissBarbara]

Too much concern lately about thread derailing.  Being here is about fun.  What’s the harm that a few posts are off topic if the people involved are having fun?  It will right itself soon enough.  We don’t have the master, sorry, mistress of thread derailing around anymore, and I don’t see it as a huge problem.

I don't know if you're referring to my post or not, but I'm certainly guilty of showing "too much concern lately about thread derailing."

And I might be the most guilty person on the board of derailing threads.

In this instance, perhaps I overreacted. There was a time here when it seemed that every thread devolved into flirting between members. There's nothing remotely wrong with flirting, but flirting has its place, and when threads on virtually every topic devolved into flirting, it added an air if inanity to the board.

I didn't say it was "a huge problem," and I was simply offering my opinion, which is what one often does on a discussion board.

In particular, I consider those two threads -- Ask a Male/Female a Question (and I hope that someday a moderator will change the thread titles to "Ask a Man/Woman a Question" -- to be very "important," since they are filled with interesting and useful information.

Go ahead and derail to your heart's content, and go ahead and flirt wherever and whenever you want. I've no right to stop you, nor was my brief comment anything more than one person's opinion.

[Asmodel]

Too much concern lately about thread derailing.  Being here is about fun.  What’s the harm that a few posts are off topic if the people involved are having fun?  It will right itself soon enough.  We don’t have the master, sorry, mistress of thread derailing around anymore, and I don’t see it as a huge problem.

I don't know if you're referring to my post or not, but I'm certainly guilty of showing "too much concern lately about thread derailing."

And I might be the most guilty person on the board of derailing threads.

In this instance, perhaps I overreacted. There was a time here when it seemed that every thread devolved into flirting between members. There's nothing remotely wrong with flirting, but flirting has its place, and when threads on virtually every topic devolved into flirting, it added an air if inanity to the board.

I didn't say it was "a huge problem," and I was simply offering my opinion, which is what one often does on a discussion board.

In particular, I consider those two threads -- Ask a Male/Female a Question (and I hope that someday a moderator will change the thread titles to "Ask a Man/Woman a Question" -- to be very "important," since they are filled with interesting and useful information.

Go ahead and derail to your heart's content, and go ahead and flirt wherever and whenever you want. I've no right to stop you, nor was my brief comment anything more than one person's opinion.

Everyone has a right to present their opinion, and so do you.