This is my second ride on this roller coaster, something no man should have to do, but maybe I’m getting the hang of it by staying calm and not getting sucked into the craziness?
I get one of those every few weeks or months. Comes out of no where. Dr. Jekyl; Ms. Hyde. And crazy hurtful things are said.
I just unplug everything, and remind myself that she’ll be crying and apologizing within 24 hours. I have a theory about my wife, which may apply to your wife also. My wife grew up in poverty, she had a history of bad relationships, low self esteem, and abandonments. Consequently, I think she secretly feels this must be some big act on my part, and I’m going to show her the “real (bad) me” some day. I also think she doesn’t believe she deserves unconditional love, so she tries to sabotage things. Finally, she may not love herself, and it is hard to give love to others, when you don’t believe you are loveable.
So, I feel your pain bro. Fortunately, the good still outweighs the bad for me. But on those weird Friday nights at 11 pm, when she is screaming and yelling about going back to Russia, I wonder.