What RUINED your day today?

[IdleBoast]

When the kids were younger, people would say “enjoy these years, they’ll go by very quickly.”  It’s hard to contemplate, while you are stepping on LEGOs and cutting chewing gum out of their hair.  Then one day you wake up and they are young adults.  No more climbing into your lap to watch a movie, far fewer kisses, and hand scribbled notes are only a memory.  My baby is graduating from high school next year.  His brother is a fork lift operator.  And yes, those years did go by very quickly.   

Yes, I don't have children, I have two extra blokes living in my house.

Proud of them both, though - clever, creative young men, and both good company over a pint.

[watcher1]

Hate to break the bad news CJ, but it's gonna get worse before it gets better. Wait until she hits her teen years.

So much fun. 

Remmy

For us, one girl was much harder to raise then two boys, especially when she got into high school. Until then, they obey and are nice. But then, it was when punk was big, with the mohawk hair cuts, combat boots, dyed hair. Arghhhhh

[ChirpingGirl]

When the kids were younger, people would say “enjoy these years, they’ll go by very quickly.”  It’s hard to contemplate, while you are stepping on LEGOs and cutting chewing gum out of their hair.  Then one day you wake up and they are young adults.  No more climbing into your lap to watch a movie, far fewer kisses, and hand scribbled notes are only a memory.  My baby is graduating from high school next year.  His brother is a fork lift operator.  And yes, those years did go by very quickly.   

She subtly stopped with the "mommy" and started in with the "mom". 

I hate it. Seems like 5 minutes ago I was changing her diapers. Now I'd give anything to turn back time. It won't be long before I have to worry about what she's up to with her friends. It won't be long before she doesn't need me to drive her anywhere. It won't be long before I lose my baby forever. 

[Remington555]

When the kids were younger, people would say “enjoy these years, they’ll go by very quickly.”  It’s hard to contemplate, while you are stepping on LEGOs and cutting chewing gum out of their hair.  Then one day you wake up and they are young adults.  No more climbing into your lap to watch a movie, far fewer kisses, and hand scribbled notes are only a memory.  My baby is graduating from high school next year.  His brother is a fork lift operator.  And yes, those years did go by very quickly.   

No more "Open mine first daddy, I made it myself!" on Christmas morning. 

Even worse, half of my grandkids are now in college. *sigh*

Seems like yesterday they were all in diapers. Not that I ever changed one on my grandkids. My own kids, yeah, plenty of times but I never once changed a diaper as a grandpa.

Remmy

[_priapism]

I went to the funeral of a young man yesterday.  A talented musician, he succumbed to a rare and particularly aggressive form of cancer.  So many young people crammed into the funeral chapel. Lots of ink, unusual hairstyles, and ear lobe inserts.  His band played a tribute.  Lots of tears.  My son went went with me, and I felt guilty to have my healthy child with me, while this young man’s parents must now bury him.

[ChirpingGirl]

My daughter is 9 years old. 

I am beyond depressed. It was one thing with my sister growing up, but it's unbearable with half my DNA doing it.

I watched videos of her with her last night. She is so beautiful, and wonderful, and bright and amazing. She's my angel.

I fucking hate this so much. 

[Jed_]

I have a big yard and the house is a 100 feet from the street, so other than my dog annoyingly barking at the window, I don’t mind when people walk their dogs on the street past my house.

I got one neighbor that uses little sky blue baggies to tie up their dog shit.  OK not really required as far as I’m concerned, however this stupid ass then tosses the baggie of dog shit on my yard?  I mean what fucking disfunction does a person have that they think that’s preferable or even OK?  I actually don’t give a rat’s ass if their dog shits on my yard, it’s biodegradable.  I got no clue who is doing this, but hey fuckwad, I don’t like picking up your bags of dogshit!

Maybe I’ll put a sign out there.

[_priapism]

My mother had her 50+ year old step child call me to inform she will not come visit for Christmas, despite my having purchased a plane ticket for her.  When step bro and his sister refused to let me speak with my own mother, I called the police and had them do a wellness check.  The police officer advised she’s fine, she just says she doesn’t want to come visit.  Ugh.

My mother has a long history of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse where I am concerned.  I haven’t seen her in a decade.  She doesn’t know any of her grandchildren.  I’m the only one of her biological children that will even speak with her.

This reminded me (again), that I really am an orphan.  Both of my parents abandoned me more or less, when I was only ten years old.  I was raised by my grandparents.  No amount of effort on my part will ever turn one or both of them into normal human beings.  Time to give it up.  I fucking hate the holidays for doing this kind of shit.

[ChirpingGirl]

My mother had her 50+ year old step child call me to inform she will not come visit for Christmas, despite my having purchased a plane ticket for her.  When step bro and his sister refused to let me speak with my own mother, I called the police and had them do a wellness check.  The police officer advised she’s fine, she just says she doesn’t want to come visit.  Ugh.

My mother has a long history of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse where I am concerned.  I haven’t seen her in a decade.  She doesn’t know any of her grandchildren.  I’m the only one of her biological children that will even speak with her.

This reminded me (again), that I really am an orphan.  Both of my parents abandoned me more or less, when I was only ten years old.  I was raised by my grandparents.  No amount of effort on my part will ever turn one or both of them into normal human beings.  Time to give it up.  I fucking hate the holidays for doing this kind of shit.

Sooner or later you gotta cut your losses. My father doesn't even know my daughters name. Nor will he ever. Even after everything he did to me I still gave him a chance to fix it and he betrayed me yet again.

Don't waste your time on lost causes.

[Jed_]

Yeah, dogshit is rather trivial in comparison.

[Remington555]

Yeah, dogshit is rather trivial in comparison.

Sometimes it's trivial things that are the hardest to cope with. I can be calm through major disasters and blow up because someone in a checkout line is dawdling.    <-- (me, embarrassed to admit that...)

My mother had her 50+ year old step child call me to inform she will not come visit for Christmas, despite my having purchased a plane ticket for her.  When step bro and his sister refused to let me speak with my own mother, I called the police and had them do a wellness check.  The police officer advised she’s fine, she just says she doesn’t want to come visit.  Ugh.

My mother has a long history of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse where I am concerned.  I haven’t seen her in a decade.  She doesn’t know any of her grandchildren.  I’m the only one of her biological children that will even speak with her.

This reminded me (again), that I really am an orphan.  Both of my parents abandoned me more or less, when I was only ten years old.  I was raised by my grandparents.  No amount of effort on my part will ever turn one or both of them into normal human beings.  Time to give it up.  I fucking hate the holidays for doing this kind of shit.

Holidays exacerbate the situation, but family shit goes down all the time. Two of my boys aren't talking and both refuse to visit if the other one is going to be present. I simply tell each of them that they're welcome and if they choose not to show up that I'll miss them.

I refuse to let either put me in the middle. They're both adults and if they don't want to act like it, then its their problem, not mine.

Chirp is right, sometimes you just gotta let go. As long as they know the door is open, that's all you can do. The ball is in their court. It won't do you any good to beat yourself up about it.

Remmy

PS: Great idea on the wellness check. I wouldn't have thought of that. Something to keep in mind. I've learned a lot of neat stuff on this board.

[_priapism]

PS: Great idea on the wellness check. I wouldn't have thought of that. Something to keep in mind. I've learned a lot of neat stuff on this board.

She lives about 1,000 miles away by car.  I do eldercare and guardianship work for the mentally incompetent, and have learned that a “wellness check” is the quickest tool available, particularly if you don’t have a trusted friend or family member in the area.

Happy Holidays Remmy.

[Jed_]

You’re in Texas.  Are you close enough to do a wellness check on Psi?  
Maybe Lois is closer.

Seriously, that was a good thought and gesture on your part considering that you sound more than a little estranged from her.

[_priapism]

You’re in Texas.  Are you close enough to do a wellness check on Psi?  
Maybe Lois is closer.

Seriously, that was a good thought and gesture on your part considering that you sound more than a little estranged from her.

More than a little just turned to totally.  LOL. I gave my brother permission to shoot me if I take another phone call.

[psiberzerker]

I'm fine.  Honestly, my room-mate wouldn't appreciate it, and might kick me out, if anyone from here showed up, so please don't.

Are you close enough to do a wellness check on Psi?  
Maybe Lois is closer.

I'd love to meet Lois any time.  Just not here.  Honestly, I'd just like to give her a big hug for the holidays.

[psiberzerker]

I'm running out of tobacco, and most of the stores are closed out here.  So, I'm going to have to go out, and raid ash-trays for butts to feed my pipe...

[Remington555]

I'm running out of tobacco, and most of the stores are closed out here.  So, I'm going to have to go out, and raid ash-trays for butts to feed my pipe...

In college, I was working a 6-midnight shift at a radio station. I ran out of smokes about 8 and slipped a request into my patter for someone to bring me some. The FCC could have suspended my license if anyone had reported me, but no one did.

The studio was on the second floor above a movie theater and another college kid on his way to the movie brought me a pack. Wouldn't even let me pay for them. Of course, they were only 50-cents a pack at the time. 

Remmy

[ChirpingGirl]

It's half off Xmas candy and clearance item day. I went with the baby Latina because she loves to go shopping with me. She loves the bright colors of products.

Anyway, there was this little boy in the store who wanted chocolate milk. His mother, a completely inattentive young twit kept telling him no, they had three jugs of milk at home. She offered to buy chocolate syrup because it was way cheaper. The kid went absolutely insane. He kept screaming BUT I WANT IT! Then cried like a spoiled brat. This went on for 20 fucking minutes with this little brat bitching and moaning about chocolate milk. His mother never once told him to stop or disciplined him. The whole store could hear him screaming. BUT I WANT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My baby Latina does not like hearing kids screaming. She covers her little ears every time we're out and someones spoiled kid has a tantrum. She went from smiling to frowning and covering her ears. I was so tempted to lay the mommy smack down on that kid, but you know his mother would be all "don't tell my son what to do", because she sure as fuck doesn't. Then we had the misfortune of getting stuck behind them in checkout. The mom's morbidly obese sister couldn't figure out how to use the food stamp card right, so that just dragged the fuck on forever. All the while..... BUT I WANT IT!!!!!!!!! WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

CJ was screaming in her head as she held the baby Latina's ears for her "SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU LITTLE BASTARD!"

Ok, so a millennium later we finally get out of there. The baby Latina's ears were safe. Or so we thought. One final scream I WANT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My children have never, would never behave like that.

[Elizabeth]

Reason #1 to not reproduce......

Love,
Liz

[msslave]

I'm with Liz (no not in the hayloft).  Bratty kids like that are the best birth control there is.