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joe_and_michelle

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on: January 09, 2015, 07:54:33 PM
Perhaps this is geared more toward the guys, but have you ever turned down sex, whether from your significant other or someone else, and why did you turn down the opportunity?     

I just posted a picture in "Sexy Hanging Boobs".  It was a picture of a woman on a pool table.   

The picture reminded me of a night following a party that my wife wanted to have sex on the pool table in our basement.    I told her "no".  She was very persistent but I wouldn't do it.  I suggested on the bar, the couch, the floor.  She insisted it be on the pool table.  I was concerned about the table being made unlevel.  (I take my pool playing very serious).   Once we got upstairs, I made my move and, as expected, was told, "You had your chance."

For the record, we did eventually do it on the pooltable, multiple times in fact, in the years to follow.

There were a few other times I denied her, I'll add them later.

« Last Edit: January 09, 2015, 09:48:45 PM by joe_and_michelle »



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Reply #1 on: January 10, 2015, 05:39:43 PM
I think I've said "no" only a handful of times in our nearly three decades together, and only because I was feeling to ill to enjoy things.

She, however...   :(





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Reply #2 on: January 10, 2015, 05:48:42 PM
I've said "no" several times to both sexes (on the male side, it literally became harassment and the bouncer's had to step in, being a lesbian is one thing, but when guys refuse to accept that fact, it can become very dangerous). On the female side, I've said "no" more than a few times simply because I didn't want to have sex.
Just because I'm out with friends, doesn't make me available.

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Reply #3 on: January 10, 2015, 07:13:38 PM
I thought you were always available, Liz. That's what Phtlc and GG say to me.

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Reply #4 on: January 10, 2015, 07:55:35 PM
I thought you were always available, Liz. That's what Phtlc and GG say to me.

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Reply #5 on: January 10, 2015, 08:10:38 PM
I did once.  I went to a party with my wife and a friend's wife came up to me, kissed me- complete with tongue- and asked me if I'd like to join her upstairs for a quickie.  She was one sexy woman and I was tempted, but discretion took the better of me.  Later on, I found out that she and her hubby were involved in a swingers group with others in the same USAF wing I was in.  Once the scandal broke there were a ton of divorces and forced separations from the Air Force.  Glad I didn't play that night.



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Reply #6 on: January 10, 2015, 10:12:19 PM
I think I've said "no" only a handful of times in our nearly three decades together, and only because I was feeling to ill to enjoy things.

She, however...   :(




lol, Idleboast.  I hear you.  Almost four decades for us.

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Reply #7 on: January 10, 2015, 10:28:52 PM

Bunches of times over the years, for a variety of reasons.  At work, primarily because that rarely ends well, and it's a huge no-no if they're working for me.  Elsewhere: I wasn't feeling the spark, the gal was too young (half my age), under-age (only one incident), she struck me as a 'professional', didn't have the time, she was drunk (not fully consensual), wasn't comfortable with the situation, hell, any number of rationales.  I've turned down many more women than I've actually *had*.

And I've turned down ALL of the gay men, going so far as decking one of 'em to get my point across.  I feel for ya, Liz.

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Reply #8 on: January 10, 2015, 11:38:39 PM
Yes, but only a few times.  I have normally been ill or way tired. 

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Reply #9 on: January 11, 2015, 07:00:53 AM
The first time the opportunity "came up" I was the one to say no.

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Reply #10 on: January 11, 2015, 07:07:35 PM
I am a little confused by the question. Are you asking have I ever said No to sex in general or to a specific act like Sex on a pool table? Like saying I will have sex but NOT on the pool table?

For sex in general sure I have said no, as much as I love sex sometimes I may just feel tired or not feeling great or need to do something else when he/she asks.

As for the specific act angle, its usually me who is the one who wants to do something different so I really cant think of a time I was ready for sex but not the location/act etc!



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Reply #11 on: January 11, 2015, 09:31:11 PM
As for the specific act angle, its usually me who is the one who wants to do something different so I really cant think of a time I was ready for sex but not the location/act etc!

I have to ask, Nicole - what was it you wanted to do, but had refused?





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Reply #12 on: January 11, 2015, 11:19:09 PM
On two occasions when I was younger, I turned down women because I wasn't particularly attracted to them, and because I thought there might be emotional complications I didn't want to be drawn into. One was a friend of a friend at a bar who was quite forward and overtly asked me if I wanted to have sex with her; the other was an acquaintance who was trying to take advance of a recent breakup on my part, and was unshy about finding excuses to rub her tits against me.

In both cases, I sort of wish I had gone through with it, just for the learning experience and the memories.



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Reply #13 on: January 12, 2015, 03:00:13 AM
I did once.  I went to a party with my wife and a friend's wife came up to me, kissed me- complete with tongue- and asked me if I'd like to join her upstairs for a quickie.  She was one sexy woman and I was tempted, but discretion took the better of me.  Later on, I found out that she and her hubby were involved in a swingers group with others in the same USAF wing I was in.  Once the scandal broke there were a ton of divorces and forced separations from the Air Force.  Glad I didn't play that night.

I saw a few people I served with in the USAF demoted or discharged for adultry or conduct unbecoming. For myself, I said no to a young lady I supervised. Couldn't do it. A friend told me I was crazy. Pussy is pussy. But no, I let it go.
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Reply #14 on: January 12, 2015, 08:35:43 PM



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Reply #15 on: January 12, 2015, 08:52:59 PM
I would expect many have turned down offers from strangers, as I have also.    I guess I was more curious from the stand point of a husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

Most of my guy friends struggle to get it once or twice a month - getting shot down repeatedly.   Though, I can't picture any one of them turning down an offer from their wives.

I also had to turn my wife down at a Xmas gathering at her parents shortly after we met.    We were on the main floor of the house when she made mention of wanting to get something of hers from her childhood that was in her parents basement.   She asked me to come down and help her find it.    Well, she had been drinking and wanted to have sex.    I wasn't comfortable with the whole situation.    Her dad still wasn't too keen on me.   I wasn't chancing it.    I fig'd I'd score at home later on, but she had too much to drink and lost out.



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Reply #16 on: January 12, 2015, 10:51:16 PM
As for the specific act angle, its usually me who is the one who wants to do something different so I really cant think of a time I was ready for sex but not the location/act etc!

I have to ask, Nicole - what was it you wanted to do, but had refused?




Enquiring minds want to know I see, HAHA!  But actually that is not what I was trying to say.  I did not mean I got refused for asking to try some wild things.  What I meant is that since I am usually the one who wants to push the envelope and try new things it is highly unlikely that would be my reason to say NO to sex. If I was to say no it would most likely be because I was tired, not feeling well, etc, not the act itself.



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Reply #17 on: January 12, 2015, 11:04:00 PM
Hey, Liz, I didn't actually tell Katie anything. Phtlc and I were PMing back and forth about it, and he claims Katie hacked our messages. ;-)
Oh, and it was Phtlc he told me you never say no, Liz. It was after I saved his life from a cat. :^)

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Reply #18 on: January 12, 2015, 11:53:53 PM
Hey, Liz, I didn't actually tell Katie anything. Phtlc and I were PMing back and forth about it, and he claims Katie hacked our messages. ;-)
Oh, and it was Phtlc he told me you never say no, Liz. It was after I saved his life from a cat. :^)

Katie...."Never Kisses and Tells". and besides how would Phtlc even begin to know about me or my likes or dislikes (beyond the obvious).
And why would you save his life?......
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Reply #19 on: January 13, 2015, 07:09:13 AM
Well, truth be told, it was MY cat that I trained to attack him. ;-) Sphinx senses fear and attacks. :P

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