This is me...bragging lol

[Janus]

TINYDANCER: As for the pm's....it is better to put it on the board, that way it doesn't become a "he said, she said" situation.Members having issues with a person's posts should be brought up on the board, not a pm. 

The scathing PM I got From TD, was about a post that I made on the board. She affirms that these things SHOULD be publicized. So I was going to do that....Should I NOT now do that? She says I should........She says that everyone should..... I can certainly DIG up the thread that she sent the PM about...It's the same thing......Boo me all you want, but if you wanna post in 1408 be prepared.....Or is that not the case for TinyDancer? She made a comment supporting putting judgments about others on the board instead of a PM.....So which is it?

I'm game for that even though I really do prefer the PM route.

Janus

[DemonDelight]

First off, thank you to those who totally took a shit in my Cheerios. Second, a sincere thank you to those who took a shit on those who took a shit in my Cheerios.

I won't tolerate someone saying bullshit about me when they have no idea of the situation. I don't care if I'm new or not. I have just as much of a right to stand up for myself as anyone. I don't care about rank or karma... Woo, boo, kudos, likes... It's all meaningless to me. Sure I participate in the fun of it, but overall I don't care.

Yes I totally lost my cool. I could have handled that much better, but are you really going to tell me you haven't done something similar in your life? No one is perfect. We all judge. Some actually take time to get more info on it while others jump the gun.

I can clearly see a divide. Those who can't take an unbiased look and those who can. It's ok, fly your team flag. Strength in numbers right?

[Athos131]

[DemonDelight]

 

[Grm]

So Janus lets get this strait, you think its OK to quote a personal message on the board?

[MissBarbara]

TINYDANCER: As for the pm's....it is better to put it on the board, that way it doesn't become a "he said, she said" situation.Members having issues with a person's posts should be brought up on the board, not a pm. 

The scathing PM I got From TD, was about a post that I made on the board. She affirms that these things SHOULD be publicized. So I was going to do that....Should I NOT now do that? She says I should........She says that everyone should..... I can certainly DIG up the thread that she sent the PM about...It's the same thing......Boo me all you want, but if you wanna post in 1408 be prepared.....Or is that not the case for TinyDancer? She made a comment supporting putting judgments about others on the board instead of a PM.....So which is it?

I'm game for that even though I really do prefer the PM route.

Janus

It's hard to tell here if your obtuseness is feigned or real.

Either way, I'll spell it out plainly for you: what's said in a personal message is personal, and if you reveal the content of a personal message on the public board without the sender's permission, you are violating a confidence.

You are also, I might add, sending a clear message to other users: be careful what you say to Janus in private, since you have no way of knowing if it will stay private.

[redhatlover]

I don't get any of this.  What happened to just having fun?

What happened to our holiday spirit?  DD has a sick kid in the hospital, and instead of being supportive, someone steps on her frayed nerves, and what was supposed to ba a fun thread has turned vitriolic.  I'm with Lois on this.  Lets leave our bashing of each other to the political threads.  If someone is hurting, lets be supportive.

DD, having a sick kid in the hospital, especially at this time of the year,  is nothing I would wish on anyone.  Here's wishing a speedy recovery, not only for him, but your frayed nerves also.

[Janus]

Barbra, it was feigned.

When this thread was moved to 1408 it opened the door for intense discussion. I couldn't think of any other way to slap the dog shit out of a theory that it was OK for those remarks to be placed into the open. A PM would have been adequate.....

I was trying to make a point that sometimes it is best to berate someone in private instead of for all to see. The excerpt I used was what I was getting at. Sometimes leaving things in a private form, is not only more effective but a much more appropriate way to tell someone they are displeased. 

I will openly confess that when I first introduced myself to Demon in a PM, I was a little harsh. I'm grateful that she took it as was intended. I've gotten to know her a little better than most of you and she truly is an awesome person and a concerned parent.

I hope the point was made to the board, that doing what Coach did, was not how I think it should have been done. It was probably a bassackwards way to do it, but to me it was valid. In my way of thinking anyway. 

1408 is for scathing commentary. Is pissing all over a thread outside of that area alright?

Coach, I have the utmost respect for you. You are an awesome guy and I like to think a good friend. I also, figured that after going through the situation with the boy's broken arm you were on fire about some poor parenting practices. I'm reassured that there truly are caring people such as yourself that look out for folks. You get mad respect from me.

Tiny Dancer, my apologies for quoting a PM you sent me. I saw that you supported what Coacheric had said and I went over the top. It was the only thing I could think to do that would have made as effective a point. I expected quite a backlash and that's what the spirit of 1408 is about. I made my point in countering what you were saying. I will assert that a PM would be more appropriate than a thread killer. I will also point out that the PM you sent me was appropriate for what we have previously discussed. I'm very glad you didn't put it out there for the whole board to see. Now that I have opened the door on that, you are free to slam my ass as you see fit. I think I know you better than that and you are a bigger person than that. If you do however, I will suck it up and take my lickings. I can't un-ring that bell. You have every right to be angry at me.

I have been wrong in a lot of things I have done and said lately. I don't know what's up with that. I'm working on it.

GRM, You are more than welcome to put my messages to you out in the open. I have to say, your last PM to me was extremely insensitive and you are no less the asshole that I am....So fuck you........Shit I don't even dislike you but sometimes I don't understand you. WTF......

I'm trying to make sense of some shit. It's not all fitting together for me right now. Seems I'm making points that others disagree with on a fairly grand scale. Maybe I'm throwing the baby out with the bathwater a little more than I should. Fuck, what a year this has been.

Janus

[Latina]

To each it's own... I won't agree or disagree with anyone... what they do it's entirely theirs... now let's get back to the original tread 

[redhatlover]

To each it's own... I won't agree or disagree with anyone... what they do it's entirely theirs... now let's get back to the original tread 

Already been done.  Go to

http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=15884.0

[DemonDelight]

Amen

[coacheric]

I may have been off with what I posted but as a member here, I have the right to comment on anything that anyone posts. You don't have to like it, you don't have to read it and you don't have to comment on it, but all of us can do all of them things. That is what KB is all about.

I commented how I saw fit and still hold to them thoughts. Just because this thread is now moved to Room 1408, I will not step into name calling. It was never my intent to have this thread moved and I stepped away before that happened, EVEN posting to start a new thread in the proper place so you all could have a run at me......

Janus, PM is just that, PRIVATE. Just because this is 1408 does not give you the right to start posting what was said in one. I took my comments public because that is the nature of the board. I could have done it in private but I did not. I knew that the chips would fall, let them, but this keeps the comments public. No PM between other members because of what I did or did not say, it's all in black and white for all to read, not a bunch of he said/she said BS. You have been here long enough to know that and have seen this type of venom before to, I would have thought, not fallen into it.

[Grm]

G I have to say, your last PM to me was extremely insensitive

This PM you mean?( Its OK for a member to quote their own PMs)

[TinyDancer]

Tiny Dancer, my apologies for quoting a PM you sent me. I saw that you supported what Coacheric had said and I went over the top. It was the only thing I could think to do that would have made as effective a point. I expected quite a backlash and that's what the spirit of 1408 is about. I made my point in countering what you were saying. I will assert that a PM would be more appropriate than a thread killer. I will also point out that the PM you sent me was appropriate for what we have previously discussed. I'm very glad you didn't put it out there for the whole board to see. Now that I have opened the door on that, you are free to slam my ass as you see fit. I think I know you better than that and you are a bigger person than that. If you do however, I will suck it up and take my lickings. I can't un-ring that bell. You have every right to be angry at me.

Janus, I am not angry....just disappointed that you stooped so low, I thought you were a better person than that.

[Janus]

"Janus, I am not angry....just disappointed that you stooped so low, I thought you were a better person than that."

I thought I was too. I know I can be. I just have to stop and think before I post. Grrrrrr

I frustrate myself more than I think I frustrate you. Sigh

Janus

[coacheric]

Coach, I have the utmost respect for you. You are an awesome guy and I like to think a good friend. I also, figured that after going through the situation with the boy's broken arm you were on fire about some poor parenting practices. I'm reassured that there truly are caring people such as yourself that look out for folks. You get mad respect from me.

I have been wrong in a lot of things I have done and said lately. I don't know what's up with that. I'm working on it.

I'm trying to make sense of some shit. It's not all fitting together for me right now. Seems I'm making points that others disagree with on a fairly grand scale. Maybe I'm throwing the baby out with the bathwater a little more than I should. Fuck, what a year this has been.

Janus

Janus,
I kind of butchered up your post for my comments here.

We are good friends and don't forget it   . YES, after the skate park, I was on fire for what I saw and see a lot of; uncaring parents. I can give many more stories based towards other kids and even their own, but I feel that I am done with that part of this.

AS for you being wrong on lots of things you have said, here is a lot better place to vent and work out your anger than real life. Here, you can tell us to FUCK OFF and still move on with your day. Real life, tell your boss to FUCK OFF and let's see what happens...  We are all human and we all make mistakes, we will never all agree on things and we will always end up pissing in someones cornflakes at some point.

You're good in my book, bro    

*Spelling & punctuation corrected, lovingly, by fellow Mod, Gia1978

[insatiable]

Oh please, please don't stop. I like the drama here.

[Asmodel]

This quickly escalated from a simple Truth or Dare game from page 1 to this.
Then quieted down for over 9 years as well.

[dominus]

Stop unearthing old threads, Stuart.

Nobody finds it amusing.