I can say, and I think Jed would agree with me, that most people want to have sexually liberating experiences. Even ones that involve a certain amount of embarrassment or degradation. There is a prevalent hangup, at least in America there is, that sex is “dirty.“ Probably dating back to our Puritan origins. So a lot of people won’t go there, until you give them permission. And the easiest form of permission is a command. “Get on your knees and show me your dirty ass hole. You know you want to. Show me your little rosebud. NOW! How many men licked that? I bet not many. But I’ll be the first.” This is called “confessions” after all.