Confessions

[Jed_]

Most people on sex sites like this that are very active over a period of time are who they say they are.  The fakers lose interest very quickly.

Not true, in my experience.

My experience is that most of the people here have been the victims of sexual abuse and/or exploitation themselves at some point, and have some pretty deep pathologies.  Doesn’t mean we’re all bat shit crazy, but doesn’t mean that we aren’t.  I have this conversation with myself from time to time.  Sitting in the corner now with my juice box...

I just had a surviver of rape want me to tie her up, tie her up a lot.  It was how she got off.  I found I liked it, being the dominant male similating her rape.  Admittedly I had read some rape scenes in books as a teen and found them arousing, so I was ready for that girl.

[psiberzerker]

My experience is that most of the people here have been the victims of sexual abuse and/or exploitation themselves at some point,

That's basically everybody.  The culture is so ingrained that you basically can't sell cigarettes, or diet beer, without playing up some sexual symbolism, or suggestion.  You know, subtly?  



If you count sexual harassment to pump your self image for money as Exploitation?  Yeah, we all have, if we have TV, or Internet.

...and have some pretty deep pathologies.

Not necessarily.  Unless you count normal deep pathologies, like Instincts, and having a Subconscious.

{Note, I know they don't have ads like that any more, but when they did?  They were in Playboy, and Penthouse.}

[lookinginnd]

The wife always jokes those type of cigarettes had to be invented by a man, because you have to suck twice as hard for half as much.

[ChirpingGirl]

I confess I really, really... REALLY do not want to talk to my little brother about "growing up" stuff. He's my daughters age, almost actually, and he's on the extremely fast track to say the least.

He says he can only talk to me about it, not his mom. Uh, NO you should only talk to her about it, not me. I dread having to do this with my own kids let alone him. I appreciate he has that trust in me, but I really do not want to talk to him about it.

He has a dilemma at school, but rather than bringing up the cringey akwardness to her, he seeks my advice. 

CJ would rather just play world of tanks with him, not the birds and the bees and all the rest.

[psiberzerker]

Oh good, chirpy's online!  

I confess I really, really... REALLY do not want to talk to my little brother about "growing up" stuff

Then don't.  Honestly, you're right.  It's not appropriate, and it's certainly unfair to you.  His parents should be the ones to do it, if they're available (And not like the sick parents in the Incest Stories Section.)

[ChirpingGirl]

I confess I'm sick of you.

[psiberzerker]

:cry:

{Sniffs.}

[ChirpingGirl]

Can't believe I agree with Athos. 

[psiberzerker]

Can't believe I agree with Athos. 

That's twice today.  Somebody agreed with Joan of all people.  The enemy of your enemy is your friend?

Doing my part to bring trolls together in harmony.

<3
Psiberzerker.

[RopeFiend]

I confess I really, really... REALLY do not want to talk to my little brother about "growing up" stuff. He's my daughters age, almost actually, and he's on the extremely fast track to say the least.

He says he can only talk to me about it, not his mom. Uh, NO you should only talk to her about it, not me. I dread having to do this with my own kids let alone him. I appreciate he has that trust in me, but I really do not want to talk to him about it.

He has a dilemma at school, but rather than bringing up the cringey akwardness to her, he seeks my advice.  

CJ would rather just play world of tanks with him, not the birds and the bees and all the rest.

Quietly bring the issue up with his mom and ask her how to proceed... that's the reasonable way and resolves any conflict.  If she's cool with you talking to him about it, then it's up to you what to say.  Unless he's in a VERY progressive school, he hasn't learned shit from anyone except for other (9 year olds?), which is the same as nothing useful.  

I lucked out.  My mom had a textbook on 'Human Sexuality' from her nursing course that I surreptitiously read around 10 or 11.  I think her attitude was "If you're old enough to ask the question, you deserve a decent answer".  She probably would have talked to me about it, but I was weirded out about asking Mom those kinds of things.  A while after I read the book, I found out that the local Kwikee Mart tossed the unsold porn mags in the trash every month when they got new stuff, which helped a lot on differences in anatomy among women.  

edit:
I was freaked about talking to Mom, so I understand his reluctance.  You're his sister, so you're not The Authority Figure, even if you are at times.

[ChirpingGirl]

Quietly bring the issue up with his mom and ask her how to proceed... that's the reasonable way and resolves any conflict.  If she's cool with you talking to him about it, then it's up to you what to say.  Unless he's in a VERY progressive school, he hasn't learned shit from anyone except for other (9 year olds?), which is the same as nothing useful.  

I fear the wrath of Jules in this case, but oh well.  

She's cool with it. Wish she wasn't but I guess she has faith in me for whatever reason. He doesn't exactly get his learning on this subject from school, he gets it from the internet.  

I think her attitude was "If you're old enough to ask the question, you deserve a decent answer".

Uh-huh. One of his questions was: "CJ, should I be grossed out by boy at school who dresses like a girl and acts like a girl and really looks like a girl and has a crush on me?"  

No, buddy, you shouldn't. Mostly because you told you me you don't care if it's a girl or a boy, as long as they're really cute.   You yourself are extremely cute, and you're a little girly looking and have cute kinda girly hair.   For fucks sake, you wear a wolf plush winter hat while asking me this shit just because you know you look cute wearing it.  

I mean, what am I supposed to say? I honestly really don't know other than if you think he/she is cute, and you like them then go for it I guess. Or turn him/her down and explain you're not into that. I'm pretty sure you're gonna be into anything given where half of both our DNA came from though.  

He looks at my daughter like she's cake and ice cream for dinner, and that's actually toning it down a lot. "I really wish Kimmy and I weren't related". As if that would even stop him. He says being in my home is like torture because of all the "super hot girls". I don't blame him on that though.   The times I've caught him checking out EVERYONE in this house can't be counted, and I've smacked him "very very gently, shut up" upside his head to snap him out of it. I've literally caught him drooling looking at my mom. And there's other things he's been caught doing.  

So I confess, to stay on topic, I don't know how to handle him. I love him, but he needs to calm the fuck down, he hasn't even hit double digits yet!   Can't you all just say 5 years old forever and stop it with the growing up shit?? I also hate that my own are starting this process. I try to keep it all away from them, but it just isn't possible. I'm not gonna go into it because Jules will murder me and orphan my children though.   Which is a little odd that I can't talk about any of this freely, but people write shit here that's like... way worse than talk about puberty.  

[psiberzerker]

I have been trolling lately, and I need to stop.  I felt provoked, but that's no excuse.  I'm sorry for last time, Cj.  I didn't know what to say, so I should have just let it go, and said nothing.

Tell his mother.  It sounds like his behavior is becoming sexual harassment.  Far be it from me to tell you what to do, but it's what I would do in a similar situation. 

I can't talk about any of this freely, but people write shit here that's like... way worse than talk about puberty.

Go ahead, and talk freely.  I'll leave you alone.  As for what people write in Sex Stories, it's what this site is all about.

[Remington555]

I have been trolling lately,

You think the rest of us didn't know that?

and I need to stop. 

So, there is something we can agree on.

I'm sorry for last time, Cj.

A Woo worthy apology. That's just my opinion, of course. 

Remmy

[ChirpingGirl]

I'll forgive you.

He's no harasser. I should have mentioned he never, ever says anything to my girls and womens. He completely obeys his mom. He has never been a bad boy around me and mine.

But his mom has caught him... You know... "That" to a picture of me and wifey from Halloween years ago. He gave no fucks he got caught.  I did consider kicking him out of my private Instagram for that though. 

Please don't kill me, Jules. 

[psiberzerker]

He's no harasser.

You know him better than I.  However, it sounded like (I can't be sure, from here) You are reacting the way that family members react to Covert Incest.  (Just the industry term that we use for Sexual Harassment within the family.  The blood relation has less to do with it than the Family Dynamic.)

As my sister did to sexual harassment.  However, that's just my opinion, based on very little more than your last 2 posts, which isn't enough for a Qualified opinion.  Trying to help, and failing miserably here, but it still seems to me (IMNSHO) that you need to tell his mother that he's making you uncomfortable.  

I know you don't want him to get in trouble, but you have to balance that with how uncomfortable he's making you.  FWIW.  Ultimately it's your call.

[ChirpingGirl]

Confession: Incest has never been taboo in my family. 

[psiberzerker]

Incest has never been taboo in my family. 

I can sympathize, only slightly different:  It's always been a taboo in my family, but certain members Fetishized it to the point that it was abusive for others.  My mother was sexually abused by her father, and my father sexually harassed my half-sister.  (His step-daughter.)

So, a lot of the content in Sex Stories hit really close to home, for me.  I basically grew up with Incest Stories, for as long as I could read.  I'm kinda jaded to them at this point.

[RopeFiend]

But his mom has caught him... You know... "That" to a picture of me and wifey from Halloween years ago. He gave no fucks he got caught.  I did consider kicking him out of my private Instagram for that though. 

If he's waxing the surfboard to your photos, then that's not an inappropriate response, especially so if you have risque photos on your Instagram.  You shouldn't encourage him looking at family for sexual release, for sure.

Disclaimer: never had incestuous problems in my family, so I'm no expert on the topic.

[psiberzerker]

Disclaimer: never had incestuous problems in my family, so I'm no expert on the topic.

Nobody really is, it's one of those topics.  People tend to lie about it to themselves.

[ChirpingGirl]

But his mom has caught him... You know... "That" to a picture of me and wifey from Halloween years ago. He gave no fucks he got caught.   I did consider kicking him out of my private Instagram for that though.  

If he's waxing the surfboard to your photos, then that's not an inappropriate response, especially so if you have risque photos on your Instagram.  You shouldn't encourage him looking at family for sexual release, for sure.

Disclaimer: never had incestuous problems in my family, so I'm no expert on the topic.

The most risque thing on my Instagram is a picture of wifey with wet hair.  

I'm afraid to ask what other ones he's ya know what'd to. 

On one hand, I don't like it. On the other... it's flattering. 

Boys. Ya just can't keep your hands off it.