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Offline mal8899

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on: April 18, 2012, 02:22:13 AM
You know you shouldn't but you can't help it.  What exactly is the attraction?


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Reply #1 on: April 18, 2012, 06:20:02 AM
Psychologically, they remove your responsibility for doing naughty things. It's the same reason some people like to be bound, or give their total submission. It frees them to enjoy and experience all the sensuality they want without the guilt.

At least that's one theory.

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Reply #2 on: April 18, 2012, 11:19:46 AM
Quote from: Katiebee on April 18, 2012, 06:20:02 AM
Psychologically, they remove your responsibility for doing naughty things. It's the same reason some people like to be bound, or give their total submission. It frees them to enjoy and experience all the sensuality they want without the guilt.

At least that's one theory.


Great point, Katiebee.  In as much as we fundamentally seek security, we have an equally strong need for naughtiness and risk.  Security is necessary but excitement and adventure are what accelerate the heartbeat.


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Reply #3 on: April 19, 2012, 02:57:25 AM
Thank god for girls that like bad boys, I have been laid a lot because of that simple fact. 


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Reply #4 on: April 19, 2012, 03:05:09 AM
Quote from: zmutt on April 19, 2012, 02:57:25 AM
Thank god for girls that like bad boys, I have been laid a lot because of that simple fact. 

How are you bad and how bad are you?   :)


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Reply #5 on: April 19, 2012, 03:56:14 AM


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Reply #6 on: April 19, 2012, 05:40:56 AM
Quote from: Athos131 on April 19, 2012, 03:56:14 AM


Perhaps now that we're all grown up. But think about High School and College girls. The need to break out and explore. Try new things that Mom and Dad wouldn't approve of. They feel less guilty if the guy shows mochismo. Arragance and rudeness somehow equate to a bad boy image. Go figure...

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Reply #7 on: April 19, 2012, 05:48:06 AM


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Reply #8 on: April 19, 2012, 09:56:44 AM
Wow, there is even a How-To book.........

So DESIRE is indeed the hot erotic wanting of what you do not have.


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Reply #9 on: April 19, 2012, 06:28:18 PM
Quote from: Athos131 on April 19, 2012, 03:56:14 AM


Now yes, that we are adults, but when I first started dating, my dumpee to dumper ratio was very high being told many times that "your a really nice guy but....".

I couldn't figure it out at first, guys who weren't even that good looking, guys with girly muscles..etc, got more pussy than me. Beleive it or not it was a female freind that actually advised me to be a bit more of a jerk, and occasionally just dump girls without warning, early in the relationship. It seems that in high school relationships were more of a competition to see who could get the better of who.

If you weren't the one breaking hearts, you were the one getting your heart broken. Given those choices I became pragmatic and sure enough, the less respect I showed girls, the more respect they showed me. It was just the way the game was played, and in high school dating you were definitely either playing the game or getting played.

By the time I left high school, the dating scene had matured considerably, but yes at least in high school, being the bad boy paid off.

While you're waiting in vain for that apology, why don't you make yourself useful by getting on your knees and opening your mouth

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Reply #10 on: April 19, 2012, 08:48:26 PM
Quote from: toeinh20 on April 19, 2012, 06:49:07 PM
You think too much.

Nobody has ever accused me of that before



Quote from: toeinh20 on April 19, 2012, 06:49:07 PM
The attraction is simply when you get to the point you are no longer needy, calculating, whiny, self-pitying, insecure, or clingy. 


That was never me


Quote from: toeinh20 on April 19, 2012, 06:49:07 PM
It's not an act or an attitude.  It's just a fact.  Once you are comfortable in your own skill and you don't give a shit if someone else likes it or not, you'll have the "x factor."
It's not that being a bad boy pays.  Bad boys just have that going for them.
I'm not a bad boy, but I've been called one.

That makes sense to an adult. As a teen I just did what seemed to work



Quote from: toeinh20 on April 19, 2012, 06:49:07 PM
You can't "be" a bad boy.  If you need an instruction manual, you've already lost before you've started.

Didn't seem like rocket science. I just started putting me first and it worked.

While you're waiting in vain for that apology, why don't you make yourself useful by getting on your knees and opening your mouth

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Reply #11 on: April 20, 2012, 12:45:15 AM
Quote from: mal8899 on April 19, 2012, 03:05:09 AM
Quote from: zmutt on April 19, 2012, 02:57:25 AM
Thank god for girls that like bad boys, I have been laid a lot because of that simple fact. 

How are you bad and how bad are you?   :)

Bad enough, somethign about riding away on a harley when women think they have you hooked does wonders.  But of course I found one that likes what I do, and likes to do things with me now.


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Reply #12 on: April 20, 2012, 01:28:33 AM
Toe has it right about the don't give a shit attitude.  Because if there's one thing a woman is gonna wanna do is make you give a shit...you know, stand up and take notice!  But most of us are smart enough to know that the bad boys are just players.

The other factor is as Katiebee stated, we can blame you for when we wanna be unladylike.  And they are sexy and fun and they are not clingy, key factor for me! 


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Reply #13 on: April 23, 2012, 06:45:56 PM
Bad boys who can make you feel safe and cared for are different than bad boys who scare the shit out of you. No woman in her right mind is going to stay around the later. it's the same for my submissive. She's really looking for danger in the arms of safety.

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Reply #14 on: June 01, 2012, 08:40:30 PM
Another part of the allure is that Bad Boys are faster at that whole 'mating ritual' dance... we skip steps or greatly abbreviate them.  French and Italian women are used to it, but to American women it's both a shock/surprise and enticing, as many are obviously tired of the guys that are slow at noticing that it's time for the next level.

I went to a friend's party and walked into the living room.  In a flash I recognized everyone except for one poor gal, literally sitting on the edge of the sofa trying to break in and be welcomed to the group.  I walked up to her, swung my leg up and over and plopped down behind her (straddling her on the sofa), and started giving her a back rub while saying "Hi!  You must be a friend of Emma's, and I see she's deserted you for her boyfriend."  She was putty in my hands, ready to be molded to anything I desired right then.

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Reply #15 on: June 02, 2012, 01:06:10 AM
Quote from: RopeFiend on June 01, 2012, 08:40:30 PM
Another part of the allure is that Bad Boys are faster at that whole 'mating ritual' dance... we skip steps or greatly abbreviate them.  French and Italian women are used to it, but to American women it's both a shock/surprise and enticing, as many are obviously tired of the guys that are slow at noticing that it's time for the next level.

I went to a friend's party and walked into the living room.  In a flash I recognized everyone except for one poor gal, literally sitting on the edge of the sofa trying to break in and be welcomed to the group.  I walked up to her, swung my leg up and over and plopped down behind her (straddling her on the sofa), and started giving her a back rub while saying "Hi!  You must be a friend of Emma's, and I see she's deserted you for her boyfriend."  She was putty in my hands, ready to be molded to anything I desired right then.

I can see why your approach would claim her for anything you want.  I love a man's direct aim at what he wants, especially if it has to do with me.


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Reply #16 on: June 02, 2012, 01:14:25 AM
A GF of mine married her "bad boy" and she gave this explanation:

"Yes he's a bad boy, but he would never hurt me.  His "bad" really shows most when he thinks someone has disrespected me.  Wherever I go I know I'm safe when he's with me."


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Reply #17 on: June 02, 2012, 01:48:34 AM
Not the bad boys that get my motor purring. a uniform does.

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Reply #18 on: June 02, 2012, 08:36:34 AM
Gents, I can't stress this enough: go to a professional masseuse (several, actually) and tell them you want a (deep and soothing) sensual massage of your shoulders, neck and head areas.  Focus on WHAT they are doing, WHERE they are doing it, and HOW it feels.  Notice the pressure, the length of time they linger on certain areas.... STUDY what they are doing.  Then pick a different masseuse and do it all over again, as they have all learned different methods and tricks.  Hell, tell 'em the truth: you want to learn how to make your woman feel like a thousand bucks!

A *good* massage is the fastest way to get a woman's attention, and for many of 'em it's nearly as good as vaginal sex.  Hell, I've had NUMEROUS times where a woman truly needed a shower after I was done with her.  You have to *focus* on the woman, her reaction to what you're doing and what it feels like both at the surface and down deep.

A 'back rub' is perfectly innocent, staying on the 'public' parts of the body, yet a GOOD massage will have them purring in amazingly short order; it's the next best thing to having your hands in their panties.  I've seen lots of guys give the most lackluster fucking performance, as if it's a CHORE that they have to get through, and they rush and bumble it.  In my long and illustrious life I've only ever seen a few men get it *right*, and they were very rare (less than 1 in 200).  Hell, I damned near stole one of my best friend's girlfriend from him 'cos I could give her mini-gasms just from a 'back rub'.  I finally convinced him that HE needed to learn to treat her right if he wanted to keep her.

Besides that, a 'back rub' will get rid of over 80% of headaches without drugs, and it feels *wonderful* when it's done correctly.

Trust your Uncle RopeFiend here: learn to give a great massage and you'll be beating the women off with sticks.

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Reply #19 on: June 02, 2012, 02:20:14 PM
WOO for knowing how to make a lady feel like a million bucks.  Sure could have used one of YOUR good massages last weekend, lol.


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