curiosity problem? attraction yes and no.

[bcgabba6913]

here is the issue ive had for many years. my attraction physically is only to women only. no attraction to men what so ever on the physical realm. BUT for many many years ive had a desire to be in a bi sexual situation. my desire stems to where i want to experience of the pleasure and giving the pleasure at least once. not in a permanant relationship way though. im not quite sure what definition that falls under. i would not rule it out completely for more than just one encounter though. this esire has been brewing for too many years and looking for answers to solve the issue.

[Pornhubby]

I think it is called being “bi-curious.” I have famously said that “everyone is a little gay.” Doesn’t mean you have to go full in. Or even necessarily explore. I find some men attractive. I have never had a gay encounter. I might, if the right opportunity presented itself. I think anyone would. So that means you’re just like everyone else. Curious. Enjoy being you. You owe no one an explanation. In 1862, Emily Dickinson wrote, "The heart wants what it wants, or else it does not care," and we've gone about proving this inscrutable wisdom true ever since.

[MissBarbara]

I think it is called being “bi-curious.” I have famously said that “everyone is a little gay.” Doesn’t mean you have to go full in. Or even necessarily explore. I find some men attractive. I have never had a gay encounter. I might, if the right opportunity presented itself. I think anyone would. So that means you’re just like everyone else. Curious. Enjoy being you. You owe no one an explanation. In 1862, Emily Dickinson wrote, "The heart wants what it wants, or else it does not care," and we've gone about proving this inscrutable wisdom true ever since.

You made your "everyone is a little gay" assertion in one of the first posts I ever read on Quora. I think (it was so long ago) you phrased it the other way around, i.e. on the broad spectrum of human sexual expression, no one is at either extreme.

Either way, it struck me at the time -- when I considered myself to be 100% gay -- and it resonate even more strongly with me today.

To my mind, the point of KB is exploration, regardless of whether it's in real life or in fantasies. It doesn't matter if its via pictures or videos, erotic fiction, reading others' real-life descriptions of sexual encounters, or basic board discussions. If you're honest with yourself, this type of exploration is very healthy, and it leads to knowing yourself in deeper and more profound ways.

I woo'ed your post above, even though it's almost 13 years after the fact. You have helped me grow and learn, to come out of my comfort zone, and to know myself in ways I'd never imagined.

And I'm very grateful for that.

[Pornhubby]

You have helped me grow and learn, to come out of my comfort zone, and to know myself in ways I'd never imagined.

And I'm very grateful for that.

And I feel exactly the same way about you Barb. Your friendship and wisdom have meant the world to me. I am a better person for knowing you.

Wishing you a merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year.

[Shiela_M]

I've said it before. I am very much heterosexual and absolutely love men. I have in the past kissed women, but it was strictly for the entertainment of men, and to get free drinks at the bar/club. The kisses still felt really good, but never turned me on.

I do find many many women beautiful and attractive, but very few that I find sexually attractive. Normally I would bring up Kate, but lately, in the last year, she hasnt had the same impact on me. I no long consider her my exception. Shocked!! Always talked about how she would be the only woman I'd have sex with, but if I actually had the opportunity,would I really be able to go through with it? If all her bits were right in front if my face, would I be able to do anything? Who really knows.

I will say, I did get turned on while writing my last story. I only wanted to work on my writing skills, and venture out of my comfort zone, but the whole scenario and how I imagined it, got me more than a little hot.

[MintJulie]

#1028 & #3028
Both of your posts.  This is why I love KB so much. 

[MissBarbara]

Always talked about how she would be the only woman I'd have sex with, but if I actually had the opportunity,would I really be able to go through with it? If all her bits were right in front if my face, would I be able to do anything? Who really knows.

I agree. I think that's exactly the point -- "Would I?" Could I?" -- and "Who really knows?" is exactly the answer.